Ben Jay support/tribute thread - 3 year anniversary video p20

aliwibble · April 2022

Garry, there's no need to apologise for not being around. Loads of us have had to take a break from the site for one reason or another - I'm a mod and have barely been on here for the last few weeks - and you have a particularly good reason at the moment. We're here if you need to post for support, or just want to distract yourself with the various random wibbling on Charlton and non-Charlton topics, but there are no expectations.

That said, thanks for explaining the story behind the ribbons. It's good to know that you and Sharon are getting such support from your local community.

Curb_It · April 2022

Garry_Jay1964 said:

Curb_It said:

Does Ben’s family live in Plumstead? I walked past this on a local house today. I assume it is for Ben? Anyway I thought it was lovely.

If anyone think it’s inappropriate to post this I’ll remove it.

Hi everyone,
Sorry I have not been on here for a while, still struggling to come to terms with losing our Ben to such a cruel disease.

Yes this is our house where Ben lived all his life. One of the parents of the school I work at asked if she could tie a red & white bow for Ben, & it just took off. It has brightened up our road & showed us what a great community we have in Plumstead.

Glad Charlton are now safe & we look forward to them rising up the league very soon COYR.

Love to all
Garry & Sharon xx

Thanks for posting. I had just grabbed a toastie from the Slade and was heading towards home and as soon as I turned in to your road I spotted it. Very eye catching and quite moving. Best of luck to you all.

KBslittlesis · April 2022

Apparently some lowlife article removed Bens scarf from this memorial 🤬

I told Garry that there could be an avalanche of replacement scarves as Bens memorial & memory will go on as he touched so many of our lives.

I’m not able to put a scarf or ribbon there.

But I’m sure many on here could.

C’mon Lifers, you know what to do ♥️

KBslittlesis · April 2022

Bumping this again.
I make no apologies ♥️

Fanny Fanackapan · April 2022

Sadly we don't live in the area now but I'm sure that others will gladly comply.

Garry_Jay1964 · April 2022

I managed to take Ben's flag on his last away day on Tuesday 😊. Tried to get more of his friends in but they were still at the bar haha. Good result for him too. The journey home was lovely as i got to travel with Niall & Connor & the drum which now has Ben's name on it so he is with them everywhere they go. Got very emotional at that point, but huge, huge credit to Charlton fans all over for giving comfort to myself & Sharon XXXXX ⚽️

KBslittlesis · April 2022

Beautiful 🤩
You always will Garry ♥️

Fanny Fanackapan · April 2022

That's brilliant, Garry ! SO pleased that you managed to "smuggle" in that very special flag and have a beautiful photo to add to your collection.

However, this was taken right in front of where we were sitting - in fact I can see my silver locks when I must have been talking to Pippa ( face upturned ..." Yes, Nan , of course I won't swear tonight !" ) Wish we could have given you a hug.

We did notice Ben's name on the drum as we exited the ground which was a lovely surprise.

And be assured, Ben will be with all of us, everywhere we go.
x

Cardinal Sin · April 2022

Garry_Jay1964 said:

I managed to take Ben's flag on his last away day on Tuesday 😊. Tried to get more of his friends in but they were still at the bar haha. Good result for him too. The journey home was lovely as i got to travel with Niall & Connor & the drum which now has Ben's name on it so he is with them everywhere they go. Got very emotional at that point, but huge, huge credit to Charlton fans all over for giving comfort to myself & Sharon XXXXX ⚽️

Rod will standing alongside Ben and both smiling down on you all.

Garry_Jay1964 · April 2022

Myself & Sharon was invited to the Sponsors dinner last night, thanks to all of you, in place of our Ben. We had a really lovely evening meeting a few players & other sponsors.

Thank you once again Charlto life xx

LoOkOuT · April 2022

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Lordflashheart · April 2022

Chuks jeans have seen better days, surprised he thought it appropriate to wear them to such an event - needs to splash out on some smart new Levi’s 🤣

KBslittlesis · April 2022

Thanks for sharing these Garry!
Fabulous 🤩
Delighted you both went ♥️

Weegie Addick · April 2022

It was lovely to meet you both xx

ElfsborgAddick · April 2022

Lordflashheart said:

Chuks jeans have seen better days, surprised he thought it appropriate to wear them to such an event - needs to splash out on some smart new Levi’s 🤣

He's on a pay as you play contract. He's saving up for a new pair.

Garry_Jay1964 · May 2022

It was another emotional day today where we got have a small service for Ben at the Valley. We managed to sprinkle some of his ashes in the memorial garden overlooking the pitch. Thank you Matt Baker for organising this, & thank you Jean Huelin & Tracey Leaburn for attending with us xxx

clive · February 4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c806rjc4Vec

Three years on | The inspirational Ben Jay story

KBslittlesis · February 4

I just watched it and yes I balled my eyes out.
Honestly have no idea how Garry and Sharon deal with this huge loss.
Ben will never ever be forgotten 💔

TheHerminator · February 4

Beautiful video. Sat here trying to wipe my eyes sufficiently before I head for lunch.
Such bravery from both parents.

Fanny Fanackapan · February 4

What an amazing video! Needless to say I'm in bits but also totally in awe of Garry & Sharon 's bravery in sharing this with us all....Ben's Charlton family.

I have few words at this moment in time except to thank them both for creating something very special for us to watch at difficult times in our own lives. Inspirational.

A poignant but beautiful reminder of " Our Ben" and what a very special young man he was - albeit he is forever in our hearts.

Sorry, but that's as much as I can post for the minute but just to finish by saying those wonderful smiles we've seen on Ben's face were, in part, thanks to the generosity of you, dear fellow Lifers. THIS is what we do...

I'm about to make a donation to Ben's page on behalf of the Lifer who purchased my 2 tickets for the Crawley match. He's now unable to use them for the re-arranged date and a refund from the Club has been made to my account. He asked that this be donated to a cause that I supported and there was no doubt where that would be.

We send our love to the awesome Jay family, today and always.

cafc_se7 · February 4

The video has just absolutely done me, Sharon and Garry, your Jay will be so so proud of you both!

Let’s hope the boys can do the business on the run in and put a smile on his face up there!!

SidewaysInOz · February 5

Watched the video this morning on the way to work and welled up on the train. People were staring but I really don't care. Credit to the club for pulling it together. Beautiful family. Deeply missed but clearly not forgotten. RIP Ben.

Braziliance · February 5

It's a really powerful video, his parents are so strong, and come across lovely human beings.

He wasn't given a fair crack at life at all, life can be so cruel.

Bloody lovely smile on him as well for such terrible circumstances, brave man. For someone who was so young he handled it so bravely.

Fly high Ben ❤️