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I've had enough so I am packing it in

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  • edited March 26
    TelMc32 said:
    I took early retirement three years ago Ben and haven’t regretted it for a minute. I was lucky enough to make some great friends from amongst my colleagues and clients over 36 years and we all still meet up socially on a regular basis. So much to do every day but it’s also lovely knowing that, if you fancy it, you can also just relax and do absolutely nothing.  

    Enjoy yourself and best wishes for a long, happy and healthy retirement. 
    What a wonderful picture you set, I have a reality of working now for 32 years and not maintaining a single friendship with anyone I’ve formerly worked with! 
    Fortunate to have worked for a huge business …means there’s a lot I’m happy to never see again, but some of us worked together for 30+ years and some clients I looked after for almost as long. Work was always less “worky” when it was with and for friends.

    Good luck with the ancestry work @Henry Irving.  I’ve been doing the same lately, with da’s family just across from yours. His mum’s line is in Cavan and his da’s just next door in Monaghan. Mum’s family all Tipperary and I’ve got back to the early 1700s on both sides so far. 

  • All the best, Ben. 
     
  • edited March 26
    TelMc32 said:
    TelMc32 said:
    I took early retirement three years ago Ben and haven’t regretted it for a minute. I was lucky enough to make some great friends from amongst my colleagues and clients over 36 years and we all still meet up socially on a regular basis. So much to do every day but it’s also lovely knowing that, if you fancy it, you can also just relax and do absolutely nothing.  

    Enjoy yourself and best wishes for a long, happy and healthy retirement. 
    What a wonderful picture you set, I have a reality of working now for 32 years and not maintaining a single friendship with anyone I’ve formerly worked with! 
    Fortunate to have worked for a huge business …means there’s a lot I’m happy to never see again, but some of us worked together for 30+ years and some clients I looked after for almost as long. Work was always less “worky” when it was with and for friends.

    Good luck with the ancestry work @Henry Irving.  I’ve been doing the same lately, with da’s family just across from yours. His mum’s line is in Cavan and his da’s just next door in Monaghan. Mum’s family all Tipperary and I’ve got back to the early 1700s on both sides so far. 

    Managed to research my dad’s Irish maternal line from Bere Island in the Beara Peninsula back to the 18th century. 

    Ben, I’m sure you’ll love the research. 
  • All the best Ben, I have been retired for almost 8 years from a reasonably stressful job after 40 odd years. Guess what?, I don't miss it one bit. Some peeps were great and it's a shame to lose touch but equally a lot were absolute pricks and very good to see the back of !!.
  • TelMc32 said:
    I took early retirement three years ago Ben and haven’t regretted it for a minute. I was lucky enough to make some great friends from amongst my colleagues and clients over 36 years and we all still meet up socially on a regular basis. So much to do every day but it’s also lovely knowing that, if you fancy it, you can also just relax and do absolutely nothing.  

    Enjoy yourself and best wishes for a long, happy and healthy retirement. 
    What a wonderful picture you set, I have a reality of working now for 32 years and not maintaining a single friendship with anyone I’ve formerly worked with! 
    So many jokes, so little time. 

    But in all seriousness, you’ve just summarised the life of someone in IT 😉
  • All the best Ben.
  • Good luck mate 
  • Good luck in your next chapter..I thought I'd miss work when I retired 7 years ago ..I did for about 4 weeks....enjoy the rest of your life this isn't a rehearsal..all the best Ben 
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    He runs a string of knocking shops across South London. 

    I wish him well in retirement. 
    Does he make use of his staff discount?
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  • Hal1x said:
    It's been a big part of my life for a long time, a vital part in many ways.

    There have been good times and not so good times.

    Met some great people and encountered a few crooks and idiots.

    To everything there is a season, a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.

    But now is the time to pack it in.

    I've done it for long enough and it is time to move on to the next chapter before I get too old.

    So yes, at the end of this month that will be it for me.

    I'm closing my small business, taking my small pension and retiring from work.

    But that will give me more time to do the things I really enjoy like travelling, visiting museums and art galleries, tracing my family tree, reading, listening to music, following Charlton (I might even do some more aways), helping run the Charlton Athletic Museum and Bromley Addicks.

    And of course posting on Charlton Life.

    Up the Addicks


    Im retired, do bugger all mostly but oddly still look forward to the weekend.
    Same. Probably because there’s more on. 
  • Best wishes @Henry Irving!  Enjoy.
  • All the best Ben.
  • Best wishes for your retirement. Thinking I have three years until semi retirement and am already considering how that will look. Hope you enjoy the time it will give you.
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    You’re an Ulsterman so, same as my Bruv…….you’re not all bad then 😜😜😘😘
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    Interesting, we'll have to get you to an inter-county game at Healy Park in Omagh, to say nothing of swinging by the O'Neill's factory shop in Strabane for some GAA gear.

    Is there any particular area of Tyrone that is indicated from your research? 

    Not that I have any particular Tyrone bias or anything...
    @NornIrishAddick

    My surname is Hayes


    So, it seems likely that your family has connections with the North Sperrins (Plumbridge/Glenelly Valley towards Cookstown in Tyrone, Claudy, Park and Feeny towards Magherafelt in Derry, both West to East).

    If South Derry, your connections could be with some of really good (if hateful, from a Tyrone perspective) GAA heartlands.

    Mind you, Hayes, as an Irish surname, is associated with other parts of Ireland.

    Of course, the DNA could be matrilineal.
    Very intersting @NornIrishAddick

    The other name I have is McHugh, my paternal great grand mother who we believe was Scottish but could be Scots/Irish. My paternal grandfather was a catholic.

    My matrilineal DNA is all eastern european Jewish thru my mum.
    McHugh is a much more likely connection for this neck of the woods, and there are plenty of connections between Mid-Ulster and Scotland (including well before the Ulster Plantation, though the Plantation is a significant factor in the continuing intermingling of Scottish and Irish history).  An awful lot of people would have migrated from Mid-Ulster to Scotland for work throughout the 18th to 20th Centuries.

    Draperstown, slap bang in the middle of the the area of interest is named for the London Company responsible for settling it.
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    You’re an Ulsterman so, same as my Bruv…….you’re not all bad then 😜😜😘😘
    We're practically cousins
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  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    Interesting, we'll have to get you to an inter-county game at Healy Park in Omagh, to say nothing of swinging by the O'Neill's factory shop in Strabane for some GAA gear.

    Is there any particular area of Tyrone that is indicated from your research? 

    Not that I have any particular Tyrone bias or anything...
    @NornIrishAddick

    My surname is Hayes


    So, it seems likely that your family has connections with the North Sperrins (Plumbridge/Glenelly Valley towards Cookstown in Tyrone, Claudy, Park and Feeny towards Magherafelt in Derry, both West to East).

    If South Derry, your connections could be with some of really good (if hateful, from a Tyrone perspective) GAA heartlands.

    Mind you, Hayes, as an Irish surname, is associated with other parts of Ireland.

    Of course, the DNA could be matrilineal.
    Very intersting @NornIrishAddick

    The other name I have is McHugh, my paternal great grand mother who we believe was Scottish but could be Scots/Irish. My paternal grandfather was a catholic.

    My matrilineal DNA is all eastern european Jewish thru my mum.
    McHugh is a much more likely connection for this neck of the woods, and there are plenty of connections between Mid-Ulster and Scotland (including well before the Ulster Plantation, though the Plantation is a significant factor in the continuing intermingling of Scottish and Irish history).  An awful lot of people would have migrated from Mid-Ulster to Scotland for work throughout the 18th to 20th Centuries.

    Draperstown, slap bang in the middle of the the area of interest is named for the London Company responsible for settling it.
    McHugh was originally a Connacht name and there are many in Leitrim. 
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    Interesting, we'll have to get you to an inter-county game at Healy Park in Omagh, to say nothing of swinging by the O'Neill's factory shop in Strabane for some GAA gear.

    Is there any particular area of Tyrone that is indicated from your research? 

    Not that I have any particular Tyrone bias or anything...
    @NornIrishAddick

    My surname is Hayes


    So, it seems likely that your family has connections with the North Sperrins (Plumbridge/Glenelly Valley towards Cookstown in Tyrone, Claudy, Park and Feeny towards Magherafelt in Derry, both West to East).

    If South Derry, your connections could be with some of really good (if hateful, from a Tyrone perspective) GAA heartlands.

    Mind you, Hayes, as an Irish surname, is associated with other parts of Ireland.

    Of course, the DNA could be matrilineal.
    Very intersting @NornIrishAddick

    The other name I have is McHugh, my paternal great grand mother who we believe was Scottish but could be Scots/Irish. My paternal grandfather was a catholic.

    My matrilineal DNA is all eastern european Jewish thru my mum.
    McHugh is a much more likely connection for this neck of the woods, and there are plenty of connections between Mid-Ulster and Scotland (including well before the Ulster Plantation, though the Plantation is a significant factor in the continuing intermingling of Scottish and Irish history).  An awful lot of people would have migrated from Mid-Ulster to Scotland for work throughout the 18th to 20th Centuries.

    Draperstown, slap bang in the middle of the the area of interest is named for the London Company responsible for settling it.
    McHugh was originally a Connacht name and there are many in Leitrim. 
    Very common in Donegal (in particular) and Tyrone from my own experience.

    If anyone is looking for a starting point for research, PRONI can be useful: https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/information-and-services/public-record-office-northern-ireland-proni/search-archives-online.
  • I actually have no idea what it is you do do 🫣🤣🤣

    But enjoy the next bit Henners, you won’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things you want to trust me.

    Good luck & if you’re ever in Eire………….🤗
    I could tell you but I'd have to kill you : - :smile:

    I want to visit Tyrone as part of the family research as my Ancestry DNA test says that my 27% Irishness comes from there so be careful, I might just take you up on that offer!
    Interesting, we'll have to get you to an inter-county game at Healy Park in Omagh, to say nothing of swinging by the O'Neill's factory shop in Strabane for some GAA gear.

    Is there any particular area of Tyrone that is indicated from your research? 

    Not that I have any particular Tyrone bias or anything...
    @NornIrishAddick

    My surname is Hayes


    So, it seems likely that your family has connections with the North Sperrins (Plumbridge/Glenelly Valley towards Cookstown in Tyrone, Claudy, Park and Feeny towards Magherafelt in Derry, both West to East).

    If South Derry, your connections could be with some of really good (if hateful, from a Tyrone perspective) GAA heartlands.

    Mind you, Hayes, as an Irish surname, is associated with other parts of Ireland.

    Of course, the DNA could be matrilineal.
    Very intersting @NornIrishAddick

    The other name I have is McHugh, my paternal great grand mother who we believe was Scottish but could be Scots/Irish. My paternal grandfather was a catholic.

    My matrilineal DNA is all eastern european Jewish thru my mum.
    McHugh is a much more likely connection for this neck of the woods, and there are plenty of connections between Mid-Ulster and Scotland (including well before the Ulster Plantation, though the Plantation is a significant factor in the continuing intermingling of Scottish and Irish history).  An awful lot of people would have migrated from Mid-Ulster to Scotland for work throughout the 18th to 20th Centuries.

    Draperstown, slap bang in the middle of the the area of interest is named for the London Company responsible for settling it.
    McHugh was originally a Connacht name and there are many in Leitrim. 
    Very common in Donegal (in particular) and Tyrone from my own experience.

    If anyone is looking for a starting point for research, PRONI can be useful: https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/information-and-services/public-record-office-northern-ireland-proni/search-archives-online.
    Could be an awkward internet search for the dyslexics!  😱😉
  • Thanks for all the ancestry hints. My paternal great grandmother left her children at either Victoria or Victoria Park Station in the 1890s and they ended up in a children's home.

    I've not been able to find a birth cert for my grandfather, Andrew Patrick Hayes as isn't clear where or when he was born. Probably 1891 and he claimed Dublin, New York and Hackney at different times.

    And thanks too for all the best wishes, very touching.
  • Thanks for all the ancestry hints. My paternal great grandmother left her children at either Victoria or Victoria Park Station in the 1890s and they ended up in a children's home.

    I've not been able to find a birth cert for my grandfather, Andrew Patrick Hayes as isn't clear where or when he was born. Probably 1891 and he claimed Dublin, New York and Hackney at different times.

    And thanks too for all the best wishes, very touching.
    Have you located your grandfather on the 1901 census? That might disclose more tangible information. If you are unable to find him that might suggest Ireland or USA.
  • Best wishes and enjoy it Ben .
  • LenGlover said:
    Thanks for all the ancestry hints. My paternal great grandmother left her children at either Victoria or Victoria Park Station in the 1890s and they ended up in a children's home.

    I've not been able to find a birth cert for my grandfather, Andrew Patrick Hayes as isn't clear where or when he was born. Probably 1891 and he claimed Dublin, New York and Hackney at different times.

    And thanks too for all the best wishes, very touching.
    Have you located your grandfather on the 1901 census? That might disclose more tangible information. If you are unable to find him that might suggest Ireland or USA.
    Len,

    He was living in an orphanage in Ealing in 1901.

    Some of his brothers and sisters followed their father to the US and in 1945 he swore an affidavid (spelling) that he seen a family bible stating he was born in New York but I believe he was trying for a green card.
  • Thanks for all the ancestry hints. My paternal great grandmother left her children at either Victoria or Victoria Park Station in the 1890s and they ended up in a children's home.

    I've not been able to find a birth cert for my grandfather, Andrew Patrick Hayes as isn't clear where or when he was born. Probably 1891 and he claimed Dublin, New York and Hackney at different times.

    And thanks too for all the best wishes, very touching.
    Your DNA matches may be another route if you haven't explored them yet. Grouping them by shared matches would hopefully leave you with matches who share ancestry on your grandfathers to help you identify one or both of his parents.

    If you're lucky there will be plenty of matches that aren't too distant (depending who's tested and how many children each generation had), and combined with records you may be able to rule out potential parents, e.g. if they weren't alive at the time or lived somewhere that doesn't fit with your family.

    Your results can also be downloaded from Ancestry and uploaded to sites like MyHeritgate and FamilyTreeDNA where there will be matches who didn't test on Ancestry.
  • Great decision, Ben.

    LLLBH ! 
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