I went to my daughters school yesterday to help out with her leavers party (cooked the barbecue),I went with a heavy heart anyway because my daughter is not going to the same school as any of her friends.(i dont just mean friends leiterally anybody from her school)We live outside the catchment area and therefore the only school we could get into none of her friends are going.This is despite her primary school being less than a mile from us and being the closest to us.It broke my heart when she said goodbye to her friends and she cried her heart out,I just had to walk away,I feel absoultely shite this morning thinkin about it and said to my wife last night that I feel as if I have let her down.I feel I should have tried to move closer to her primary school,but money just wouldn't allow us.She is 13th on the waiting list for the school all her friends are attending but there is no way she will hit the top before they go back.Sorry to post a non-football related topic because I just need to get it off my chest I feel totally empty inside.
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My youngest leaves BBA school today
And i cant wait and she cant wait got to be the worst run school ever. FACT
13th is not a lot for a big secondary. Bound to be a few movers and those above you may settle for the other schools they get and not want to move.
Which school is it by the way?
If it isn't too late, it's a good thing for her to collect some phone numbers of special friends. My son is still in contact with a couple of kids he went to pre-school with and he's 14 now.
My daughter finished secondary school recently, she is going back to 6th form for 2 years, I went to her leaving do, I think part of why I felt upset is her growing up and going through stages in her life, all important stuff and heart wrenching, I think thats where a lot of your feelings would come from, take a deep breath fella.
Kids stay in touch other ways, facebook, myspace, texts all sorts.
12 months time we want a report back!!
Chin up.
I had a similar situation with all of my children, although admittedly not to the same extent. If I remember we threw a party at our house for our kids and some of their old friends during the holidays, to soften the blow and to make sure they kept in touch. But it's the whole vulnerability thing that gets to you and no matter what you do, you are still going to feel it for them for a time.
I hope that you both get through it ok and when she starts bringing home her new friends you can start to relax a little.
So, dont worry mate - all will sort itself out
Anyway the majority of my mates now are people who never went to my primary school and a lot of them are people who i never really knew properly until the 6th form. So i guess my point is it's not the end of the world, kids often make new friends.
the silver lining is that she gets to make loads of new mates!
:-)
I recently had the problem of moving my Son to a new school which better suited his needs. He was devastated when I told him he was going to leave his mates who he'd grown up with and who all live locally. In a relatively short time however, he has settled into his new school and made some new friends. What we did though was make sure he continued to meet with his existing ones - had them round to tea, took some of them out to the pictures. This was done basically to reassure him that he wouldn't lose touch. Today, one of his old school chums is round playing DS and Wii and cricket.
You shouldn't repproach yourself for the way that the authorities carve up the school catchment areas, it's not your fault. Your daughter is lucky to have such caring and committed parents.
I'm sure, in time, it will all work out.
They made new friends soon enough and seemed to also have the ability to pick up where they left off with their old primary friends if and when they subsequently met them.
The most important consideration is that you are happy with the school she is actually going to attend. The rest of it will take care of itself.
My youngest chose to change schools after her GCSEs last year for AS and A levels and her social life has really taken off as muggins who has to ferry her here, there and everywhere is only too aware! She knew very few people at the new school before she went there.
The main reason for us relocating to Medway nearly 24 years ago now was that they had better secondary educational opportunities than existed in SE London at the time. We knew nobody in the area but settled in and there is no way I'd come back to SE London.
We moved away from area to send our son to a better schools. It meant he went to a school where only one of his friends went to but more importantly his best friend (his parents moved for the same reason).
He was not happy BUT he has made himself a good bunch of mates at the new school and we've just been told he's done so well at the school they are putting him in for his GCSE in science next year.
She'll make new friends
When I left primary in 84 and went to Eaglesfield not one person from my primary went! They all went to Woolwich Polly and BBC.
After a few weeks I forgot all about who wasen't there and made loads of new friends who I still talk to today!
She will be fine Steve.
Men but a wife and 3 daughters can make you go eek, eek from time to time:-)