Evening All
As this place seems to be the font of all knowledge, from politics to world travel, I thought that I would test the waters with my own conundrum.
I know that there has been a similar thread to this, but my situation is slightly different, and I would really welcome feedback from anyone that has been in a similar position.
After over 20 years in the Advertising/Marketing industry, I have decided that I need a total change of direction - it is generally a young persons industry, and all of it frankly bores me a little now.
The good news for me is that the Missus has an unbelievable job, so we aren't under any financial pressure, so I literally have an open playing field to work with in terms of a career change.
The question is how do you decide what you want to do with the rest of your life? I am only 46, so have plenty of years left in me, and certainly don't want to be sitting around on my arse until I peg it.
How would any of you guys approach choosing a path forward? I have thought about teaching, but think that that may be a bit of a cop-out.
Would love to know how other would approach such a fork in the road, and would love to hear of anyone else that has had a total career change, especially if it entailed re-training at Uni or College in your later years.
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For me, if money/fear wasn't an option I'd love to open a restaurant.
From my experience I would suggest the following.
1) you say your misses has a great job, if you don't need to work, don't do anything you don't love doing.
2) Do something though, even if its low/unpaid work. Even if it's only while you look for something else.
3) if I had the last 7 months again I would have looked for a part time job, maybe 3 mornings a week. Not for the financial side but the social and routine. I am not much younger than you and I don't know your circumstances but "doing nothing" indefinitely isn't a good idea.
Hope that helps
Regarding the OP. If money isn’t an issue then either do something you love or do something rewarding in the local community. But do something.
I have a friend who after 20-odd years gave up her secure job and opened a florist. Loves it. Even better is another mate who quit insurance and now owns a small brewery!
Your circumstances are very different. Do it, but make sure you choose a new career path that is enjoyable as well as fulfilling.
I've been working in Reprographics for 16yrs on a 4 night shift in London earning 30k
I'm 44 and live nr Rochester, I could do with a change in career and happy to try most things, but need to earn around the same money but on a Mon - Fri 9-5ish
Any help welcome
I'm a quantity surveyor in construction and have grown very despondent to the point where I dread every day.
I signed up to a 8 week course with a UK based organisation called Career Shifters last year but was around the same time the Mrs become pregnant which changed my view somewhat on future career options.
Some of the content is a bit wishy-washy but in the whole it asks some thought provoking questions about what it is you want to do with your life and how you can go about making it a reality.
With a littlen in the house now and the added financial pressures I feel even more trapped than before but it's not forever and I will find a new path soon, all in good time.
I'd recommend them as a starting point, the course itself was called LaunchPad but they have some good blog articles and success stories on their site that are worth a read. Good luck.
4yrs later and we have a beautiful farm in West Cork.
17 goats, 3 sheep, 3 cats.
A self catering cottage.
A kennels.
A cattery.
Can’t tell you how different life is.
We love working with animals, the rewards are amazing.
And I love sharing it all with people who choose to spend their hard earned money and holiday time here. We’ve met some amazing people.
It’s hard work but boy it’s worth it.
Good luck x
She then went totally leftfield and trained as a nurse (you got a monthly bursary back then or we couldnt have afforded it) and qualified in 3 years despite knocking out two kids/maternity leave in that period.
Worked in various departments after qualifying and is now a Chemotherapy Nurse.
A good friend and former colleague of mine took voluntary redundancy about 18 months ago at the age of 38/39
He had paid off his mortgage and had enough in the bank to survive for a while so decided to go travelling with his inheritance from his mother. He had a brilliant time and returned in around April 2018 I think and still isn't working. He doesn't know what he wants to do so isn't rushing into anything. In a way I really envy him as he currently has no real stress, no wife/girlfriend or kids and answers only to himself.
Last time I spoke to him he told me he would like to work for a charity (which is bizarre as he is, frankly, a bit selfish and rude but that suited his last role).
I don't really know where I am going with this but I must confess to often looking around and thinking a life with less stress is definitely the way to go...just don't know what or where or how i'd even start.
Good luck to OP but make sure it isn't just January blues...take your time and decide for the right reasons
I had a similar quandary in 2013 when, at the same age as you are now, I opted to leave the RAF after 28 years service. At that stage in my career, I could have stayed in another 9 years (until age 55) but decided to get out whilst I felt I was still young enough to secure a new career.
Admittedly, I was fortunate enough to get an immediate lump sum and relatively decent pension, but I still needed to work full time. Luckily, I was able to give the RAF 7 months notice, and then go on to work only 3-4 months of that period whilst still getting paid for the full 7 months. The rest of the time I spent on terminal leave and undertaking (paid for) Resettlement courses and training for the purposes of helping me 'resettle' back into civilian life. Very fortunate in that respect of course and I recognise it's something not available to many.
Anyway, the transition back to civilian life was harder than anticipated (let's face it, I'd been in the RAF since the age of 18), but I was lucky enough that the skills I had accrued in the military (RAF Police/Protective Security and Counter-Intelligence) enabled me to attain a fairly well paid job in the corporate sector. It took me 3 years to realise that the corporate world was certainly not for me and I was fortunate enough to then get into the 'Learning and Development' sector as a qualified trainer; something that I had always aspired to do. Again, I had attained the required trainer qualifications to do such in the last 5 years of my RAF career and through my resettlement training. It was/is what I really enjoy and I am glad that I made the decision to 'take the plunge' so to speak.
Yes, there was a lot of uncertainty (especially during that transition period when I was leaving/left the RAF), but I stuck at it and am very happy with how it's panned out.
Obviously I miss aspects of RAF life (that I didn't think I would), but that's probably down to the relative uniqueness of that particular career/life choice. I certainly have no regrets though.
Anyway, good luck with it mate and go with your 'gut', that's what I say.
Would absolutely love to do something different that didn't involve getting a train every day and be more local (I have no idea what though) but it's the financial side that prevents me and I reckon I'm stuck here for another 20 odd years......unless that lottery win comes about !
Teaching over there may not be the bureaucratic and disciplinary nightmare it can be here sometimes if I am right.
I was in a very similar position not so long ago
After 40 odd years in The City and then suffering a very bad stroke I didn't think i would work again. Luckily I too have a wife in a great job and we are reasonably secure but I needed to do something. I was lucky that someone asked me to help him and I haven't looked back. I enjoy what I'm doing, it is fun, its completely different and I'm learning new things all the time. I think I'm adding value not just in the business but to the future of families. The main upsides though it is keeping me mentally fit and all those around me tell me I am rejuvenated by having something to work for. If only they'd pay me!!!
So the main bit of advice to definitely do something and the other is take your time and talk to people as you will be surprised at how many people need your help.