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I am stuck living with a mother in law who is so rude. Help.

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  • Not spoken to mine for years,its rude to interupt.
  • johnny73
    johnny73 Posts: 4,567
    A few years ago my mum came to live with us. Over the next two years the relationship deteriorated as she disapproved over how my wife and I raised our daughter, maintained the house etc. Most of the negativity was directed towards my wife. 

    I guess my mum had a traditional view of a family life. Dad at work. Mum at home etc. However our way of living was different, we both work(ed) shared household duties etc.
    It all ended with a full blown argument where I had to make a choice wife or mum. The choice was not difficult and mum moved out a short while later.
  • DamoNorthStand
    DamoNorthStand Posts: 10,934
    edited September 2021
    It’s one of the classic jokes about married life that cracks me up sometimes!

    But funnily enough my mother in law is awesome. Before my mum died she told her she would look out for me and she does just that.

    She also isn’t unwilling to tell my wife she is being out of line if she has to.

    Guess I’m lucky.
  • fattmatt said:
    I am stuck living with a mother in law who is so rude. Help.

    Whatever you do, don’t mention anything to your wife. You’ve got to put up with it until you can get out of the situation. 
  • LargeAddick
    LargeAddick Posts: 32,561
    My mother in law has been living with us for nine years now. It’s not easy but for our situation it was the best option for us. I still think that although it is very testing at times. Funnily enough my wife argues with her Mum far more than I do. I tend to stay out of it as far as I can. It’s not ideal but it is what it is.
  • Gribbo
    Gribbo Posts: 8,485
    Say to your Mrs that it's you or her mum has gotta go. Give her no more that 2 seconds to answer and just storm out. The very least you'll get is a weekend on the piss and you might find the mother in law gone when you get home early hours of Monday
  • iainment
    iainment Posts: 8,039
    Whose house is it? I guess if it’s hers it’s a bit more complicated than if it’s yours.
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  • iaitch
    iaitch Posts: 10,230
    'My mother in law is an angel'.

    'You're lucky, mine is still alive'.
  • Any threesome potential?  :D
  • golfaddick
    golfaddick Posts: 33,628
    fattmatt said:
    I am stuck living with a mother in law who is so rude. Help.

    Not enough info to be able to give any meaningful advice I'm afraid l. However, you'll get plenty of mother-in-law jokes and people telling you of their own woes.

    I found getting divorced helped.
  • I’ve lived with mine since my son was born, which is fairly common in this part of China, luckily her Chinese isn’t perfect so I often resort to “I don’t understand, sorry” 

    I sometimes have to let out my frustration in English which she absolutely doesn’t understand, there was quite an awkward evening when my wife got in from a dinner with friends and our son was running around screaming “old hag, old hag” 
    Whats her first language if she doesnt speak great Chinese or English? - Cantonese?
  • Yizu, which is the language of her ethnic minority, she can speak Chinese, but almost always speaks the local dialect, which is quite hard for me, I can communicate with her, just sometimes choose not to. 
  • MrWalker
    MrWalker Posts: 4,107
    Does she say 'Only you' and 'Don't go' a lot?
  • North Lower Neil
    North Lower Neil Posts: 22,954
    edited September 2021
    Get one of those granny pods and relegate her out into the garden.
  • Gribbo
    Gribbo Posts: 8,485
    relegate her out into the garden.

  • Yizu, which is the language of her ethnic minority, she can speak Chinese, but almost always speaks the local dialect, which is quite hard for me, I can communicate with her, just sometimes choose not to. 
    Ma; horse rather than mother?
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  • clb74
    clb74 Posts: 10,824
    fattmatt said:
    I am stuck living with a mother in law who is so rude. Help.

    C'mon Matt we need more info
  • iaitch
    iaitch Posts: 10,230
    Yes rude as in not polite or rude as in filthy?
  • Try not to let your mother in law catch you having sex with her other daughter. Makes for awkward conversation at Christmas 
  • cafcdave123
    cafcdave123 Posts: 11,491
    edited September 2021
    My mother in law is a lazy ponce
  • ricky_otto
    ricky_otto Posts: 22,600
    Try not to let your mother in law catch you having sex with her other daughter. Makes for awkward conversation at Christmas 
    And definitely try not to let your wife catch you having sex with her mother. 
  • cafcdave123
    cafcdave123 Posts: 11,491
    My mother in law is a lazy ponce
    The bit that I couldn’t get across any more has been edited out
  • cabbles
    cabbles Posts: 15,256
    Just start discussing Charlton with her at every opportunity you get.  Even if the conversation isn’t about Charlton, turn it into one 
  • DaveMehmet
    DaveMehmet Posts: 21,601
    cabbles said:
    Just start discussing anal with her at every opportunity you get.  Even if the conversation isn’t about anal, turn it into one 

  • cafcdave123
    cafcdave123 Posts: 11,491
    cabbles said:
    Just start discussing anal with her at every opportunity you get.  Even if the conversation isn’t about anal, turn it into one 

    I’d include even just whispering it to her as you pass on the stairs