There are other relatable discussions about this, so writing this up may seem a tad unnecessary.
This is more for simple, clear and direct ways to help create a more gentle state of mind for your everyday life.
You could probably just Google a lot of information and you will recieve some useful answers. The purpose of this isn't to be patronising. It is a casual method to advice others.
Some of the advice i give might not also be possible for you to do. We all have different lives, along with different circumstances, problems and obstacles. You don't necessarily need to complete every bit advice that is offered. We can only do what we can.
It is that time of year. The cold, sunlight withdrawn build up to Christmas. I personally find this winter season to be depressing. I don't really know what happened to me yesterday...but it certainly was rather crappy, so I need to look back and keep things simple.
Also, if you are on the up and doing well, then I personally don't advise you read this any further at this present time. If you're normal and or doing well and you enjoy the winter season, then that's good.
1. Stop, pause and take deep breaths. Your mind can play tricks on you and lead you down the wrong way, without you even being aware of it. We are our own worst enemy during dark times.
2. Keep things smooth and simple. Do not overwork yourself. Too much of any particular problem or obstacle is not good.
Too much of anything may likely cause a problem. Have a balanced life. There is no need to rush things or try to overly accelerate your energy for any particular desire. Allow time to gently push you in the right direction. Don't overwhelm yourself.
3. Socialise. Any form of it. Don't isolate yourself, but also, take a step back and give yourself some peace. Call a helpline if need be.
Surround yourself with the right people. Move onwards and upwards.
4. Tidy up your living space, Stay fully organised, keep things clean and simple, smelling good and looking good.
5. Have a smooth and simple day of rest. Your mind does need a lot more rest then we may assume. It is important. Especially after working a 60hr week etc.
Doing absolutely nothing apart from watching sky sports news for 5 or so hours will likely really help you! Without you even being aware of it.
It's almost like drinking water.
The mind needs this. It doesn't like to continuously get pulled in all loads of different directions. Be kind to yourself and just do f*ck all.
6. Have a cold shower.
I personally believe this is almost like a "cruel to be kind" situation.
No one is going to actually enjoy a cold shower! But it will wake you up.
7. Listen to peaceful calm classical music
8. Have a bath
Depression is a complicated problem that certainly comes in different levels and proportions during different time frames.
It's not just black or white. Being a bit depressed, is still rubbish. Look out for yourself and solve the problem.
Put yourself 1st...
I remember listening to a friend of mine recently. He unexpectedly told me about a rather shocking life experience he went through.
My reaction to it was blunt. I mostly just stayed quiet while listening and said "OK mate, weren't expecting that" then I just walked off.
He benefited from that. I didn't dramatise his problem and he likely didn't feel as isolated. I continued to speak to him in a normal casual way.
I've found that a simple reaction does help. Might not be for everyone.
I remember talking away to someone who was a health advisor. He didn't offer sympathetic drama of "wow that sounds really bad". He just nodded and said "alright, er ok,...so you gotta go work tomorrow? Hopefully the weather will pick up"
Those kind of normal reactions are an unexpected very useful simple form of wake up call. It may make you just think to yourself...what am I doing? Then the return to normal is heading towards yourself.
It can be a very helpful simple useful return to normal for some people. We don't need to be victims of life. We mostly all just want to move on.
That's what I've got for you
Take it or leave it/offer your own advice
Have a good day and thank you
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Going out taking photos helps clear my head, but even when I dont have my camera, its lovely just hearing the sounds in the woods (birds singing, wind on the leaves etc.) or the coast, listening to the tide lap against the beach.
Absolutely 🙂
Exercising and eating healthy food certainly sounds like the right approach. Just go back to basics
Do something to help someone else. You'll boost your self esteem because you'll know you've done good. I haven't done it for a long while, but I used to love it when we gave blood at work. Always felt it was the best thing I'd done all day.
But sometimes nothing works and I think for good reason: losing a parent, watching the news, redundancy, social media, illness, accidents, family conflict, etc. It's hard to believe the self help books telling us it's always within our control!