Family arguments

johnny73

My 3 year old daughter had an important appointment at Hospital this morning. The Hospital is 40 miles away, we do not drive and so I asked my sister (yesterday) to give me a lift, she said yes, although by the tone of her voice I could tell she didn't want to do it. She was concerned about directions (I printed off google maps) and the cost of petrol (I said i would pay).

This morning my sister didn't turn up causing us to miss the appointment. I have done many favours for my sister down the years and have never asked anything in return. The one time I ask and she doesn't come through.

Should I:

1, Never Speak to her again.
2, Have a rant but forgive her in a couple of weeks.
3, Act as if nothing has happened and get over it.

What would you do in this situation?

cafctom

Ring her up and find out what happened would be a good start.

ValleyGary

wouldnt fly off the handle just yet. she may have a reasonable excuse.

id also ring the hopsital and re-arrange the appointment!

johnny73

Have re-arranged the appointment. Her reasons for not turning up - a long way to drive and the car might brake down. It is a long way but the car hasn't broken down since she bought it (Her response was by text message). I also forgot to say that when we arranged things I said 'if you don't want to do it then say so'.

roseandcrown

Could she off just forgot?

Shag

Thats a shit excuse mate , dont bother doing anything for her again .

charente addick

Might she be hacked off with you about something else but isn't saying?

cafctom

Think you've got a right to let her know you've been let down considering it regards your daughter's health.

smiffyboy

Agree with what shag said

thecrazyaddick

That's poor. She should have said that yesterday. I would tell her your pissed off, but then forget about it. These things aren't worth having a major fall out over, especially when it comes to family.

Might make you feel better to stick a pic of her up here, so we can "would ya" her.

roseandcrown

Poor excuse. I know if i asked my sister something like that she would do it without even thinking about it and liek wise from me.

As Shag says, but dont just cut her out of your life. life is to short for that

MCS

Get yourself a car, no need to rely on others then!

Shag

Or move nearer the hospital ?

ValleyGary

in that case id give her an earful...she then might let out what the real problem is.

then id tell her she's let her neice and her brother down.

Stebo

how old is your sister?

johnny73

roseandcrown said:

Could she off just forgot?

I doubt it.

roseandcrown

johnny73 said:

roseandcrown said:

Could she off just forgot?

I doubt it.

I posted that before i see your message RE text

johnny73

Stebo said:

how old is your sister?

42.

johnny73

MCS said:

Get yourself a car, no need to rely on others then!

I agree with that one. Would need to pass my driving test first though.

mendonca

It must be hard having a child without either partner driving? I know the issue here is more about her letting you down, but it must make things tough.

Curb_It

I feel your pain. I have constant problems with my family. Hard work. but that is shit.

I'd text her back and say you feel very let down and disappointed by her actions. And then switch your phone off and as shag said, no more favours.

johnny73

Shag said:

Or move nearer the hospital ?

Hopefully after this appointment we will not need to go back. It's a hospital that specializes in burns.

LargeAddick

just don't do her any more favours. Let you down badly so learn from it.

Shag

Well I hope your daughter is ok mate , that is the main thing

johnny73

I think a short burst of anger (which i did instinctively) and then forgive when the opportunity arises. In a normal situation I don't think it would bother me to much but I think I expected more from her because of the previous favours.

suzisausage

Let her know how disappointed you are, not that she couldn't do it, but the way in which she didn't turn up which led you to not being able to make other arrangements (cab / other lift / train etc)

Forgive her, as life is too short to fall out but never forget (although don't bring it up in 3 years) just keep it in your head and remind yourself (not her) if she ever asks you for a hand with anything.

johnny73

mendonca said:

It must be hard having a child without either partner driving? I know the issue here is more about her letting you down, but it must make things tough.

Most of what we need is close by. If i drove I'd weigh a couple of stone more!

johnny73

Shag said:

Well I hope your daughter is ok mate , that is the main thing

Daughter is fine. The hospital need to see the burn wounds to confirm they are healing properly. My untrained eye says they are. Going to hospital tomorrow, they were understanding but could only give us a double booked slot.

mendonca

johnny73 said:

mendonca said:

It must be hard having a child without either partner driving? I know the issue here is more about her letting you down, but it must make things tough.

Most of what we need is close by. If i drove I'd weigh a couple of stone more!

Haha good point, was just thinking out loud really. Guess we are v well connected these days with trains/buses/Bikes/Slippers.

mascot88

it reflects on her... let it go ... recognise she doesn't keep her word, and obviously is happy to yes in the moment to avoid truthful confrontation...

i wouldn't spend much time with her moving forward... and get a bus or train so your independent ... or use a proper mate for the lift ....

MCS

johnny73 said:

MCS said:

Get yourself a car, no need to rely on others then!

I agree with that one. Would need to pass my driving test first though.

Ah i see, ok get yourself some driving lessons then ;-)

Burns hospital must be East Grinstead?? I had Plastic surgery on a head would last year was very good there.