Some advice required.....

Chris_from_Sidcup

Going through a break with the other half, we're not married, no kids, so should all be fairly smooth..................you would think.

The issue is it's my house, she's not on my mortgage but because she's been giving me money each month towards bills etc, she wants some money back before she leaves. I've got no issue with this and agree she shoud have some, however we are currently miles apart in the amount she should get.

I've offered to give her a couple of thousand up front so she's got a deposit, first months rent and a little bit left over. She wants about 7-8k and has said she's going nowhere until she gets it.

My question to the masses here is, anyone been in a similar situation, how was it resolved, and where do i stand from a legal point of view if it ever got that far?? Is she legally entitled to anything?

JT

FAO legal addick

BIG_ROB

I'd say it depends on how much she has paid and for how long she been paying Chris pal. If your ex is anything like any of mine, you triple any figure you come up with and it'll be somewhere near where she is. Good luck, hope it gets sorted soon pal

paulsturgess

Know very little about this but I believe you're in a pretty strong position if her name isn't on the mortgage. I would've thought in the eyes of the law she's not different from any old random lodger you'd picked up off Spareroom.com. They wouldn't be demanding 8 grand back from you.

Plaaayer

Tell the police you thought it was a burglar.

NathanPrior

Hire a hitman

Vinnie V.

Google it but a friend of mine went through the same thing recently and I believe she tried to claim to be a common law wife and wanted half the house despite not being on the Mortgage but ended up with no rights at all.

Macronate

hope this helps mate, 5th para onwards

http://www.compactlaw.co.uk/free-legal-information/relationships-family-law/unmarried-couples.html

johnnybev1987

I think it depends how long she has been paying to stay in that house, my dad had something similar but the other way round. In the end took the easy route for the kids sake, if noone on here can help ill ask my stepdad who is a solicitor what his thoughts are

maybe_baby

Offer half that sum...if she goes down the private action route be sure to tell the bare bones truth, even if it may initially appear to you to be counter productive.

Dizzle

Would you like me to have a.....erm.....Friendly word with her about this?

Chris_from_Sidcup

This is it, not only is her name not on the mortgage but the money she gives me each month has been in cash, it's not been paid direct from her bank to mine so 'technically' i could claim she's given me f*ck all couldn't i? Or even claim that the money she gave me was just for bills, nothing to do with the mortgage or anything like that?

But i really don't want the hassle and expense of going through solicitors to get this resolved.

But if she refuses to go untils he's got this fantast sum then what can i do?

guinnessaddick

Should have given her a rent book.

kimbo

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Beckboy

Tell her she can have part of the house ...... The outside ;-)

Rizzo

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Where does honour come into it? He owns the house, she doesn't. Why should she get anything at all? I think he's being more than generous already.

randy andy

Sounds like she's being a bit cheeky really, unless you had an agreement that she was paying half the mortgage. I lived with my now wife for a number of years before we bought a place together. I gave her cash each month toward household bills, and she used that as she saw fit. If we'd split up I would never even have considered claiming she owed me anything.

maybe_baby

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Wow I'm not alone.

Danny Addick

Rizzo said:

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Where does honour come into it? He owns the house, she doesn't. Why should she get anything at all? I think he's being more than generous already.

Quite, she paid rent to live with him, and he let her. Service paid for.

Chris_from_Sidcup

So putting aside whether she should or shouldn't get anything, it seems like she either accepts my offer or we go to court where she would probably get nothing. Is that right?

Curb_It

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Seriously?

Id be interested to hear what she was paying and how long for before i could honestly say.

richie8

Having two ex wives, you will get screwed! Mine even got half of my projected compen for a work injury!!

Chris_from_Sidcup

Curb_It said:

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Seriously?

Id be interested to hear what she was paying and how long for before i could honestly say.

3 years, £400 a month.

wickford

Chris_from_Sidcup said:

Curb_It said:

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Seriously?

Id be interested to hear what she was paying and how long for before i could honestly say.

3 years, £400 a month.

Sounds like a share of the bills to me. (But then I'm not much of a keen philanthropist!)

JohnBoyUK

Think yourself lucky you're not married with any kids

What I would suggest you do, go and speak to a solicitor (you'll get the first appointment free) then you can run it past them and they'll tell you exactly where you stand. Then you'll know once and for all.

The solicitor will confirm the meeting in writing, presumably saying she doesnt have a leg to stand on then you can show her the edited letter to that effect and hopefully she'll change her stance. Good luck!

Curb_It

Oh well i have no idea to be honest now. I thought if it might have been a year or so it was a bit cheeky.

She basically wants half of what she's paid back? Did she have a property before she moved in with you, ie could she have been paying off a mortgage?

O-Randy-Hunt

kimbo said:

Act with dignity. It is only money, you have had happy times together I assume so you should behave honourably.

Just pack your bags and leave Chris alone. Its his house

jayblock

how long did you own the property before she came along?

Chris_from_Sidcup

Curb_It said:

Oh well i have no idea to be honest now. I thought if it might have been a year or so it was a bit cheeky.

She basically wants half of what she's paid back? Did she have a property before she moved in with you, ie could she have been paying off a mortgage?

Yeah she's got a flat which she rents out so that covers her mortgage.

Curb_It

Well then personally I think she's taking the piss.

But that is no way a legal opinion.

Plaaayer

Lol!