Mothers day is the only one of the 'Clinton Cards' days that I enjoy, my mum is still around, dad has gone (but he wasn't interested in Fathers day, load of hype), so we spoil mum, pressies and dinner, however she is at our house for dinner every other sunday anyway, and we all love her being around. Also my wife is all the Greenie Juniors stepmum, and she does loads for them, absolutely tons, they love her to bits, and they like to buy her gifts on Mums Day. I am mindful that a lot of people my age dont have their Mum or Dad around anymore, so I dont go overboard with posts on FB on the day, what we do though is on the saturday night before Mums day we have family and friends round for dinner and a piss up as a celebration for all the mums. It works for us.
I am incredibly lucky to have both parents still here. They are elderly, long seperated and between them can be a pain in the arse at some points, but in a nice way.
Fathers Day is a fabrication and has been unsurprisingly hijacked as a cash cow by the usual suspects. My kids know that i would frown on them wasting money they have not got on me just to fill Moonpig's coffers.
Mothers Day is a day of celebration for me as well as my mum. During my pomp, when i sort of had a successful career, i lost a regular contact with my mum, always too busy chasing the next payday. I regret that so much. It was only when my life hit the skids that i realised or had the time to, what my mother means to me. So yesterday, i got dragged to church, witnessed her try and get in the wrong side of the car twice, lose her place in the order of service constantly, walk back down into the wrong pew after receiving communion, fling rather than hand the hymn book at me after to take back, start to walk out of the wrong entrance to the church and call Roger the vicar Joe...
That's my mum. I dread the first Mothering Sunday i wake up and do not have the option of laughing and getting mildly irritated by her shenanigens.
Was never a fan because it's just another day where people spend unnecessarily. Always struggled to get anything for my mum anyway as only a couple of months after Christmas and her birthday was in February.
As NLA said, now a day of reflection and have changed my mind on it slightly. Realised how much I missed my mum but gave me the opportunity to talk about her and reminisce with my family.
No need for them imo. Same goes for Valentine's day. If you need to be told to spend time/money on the important people in your life they can't be that important to you. Just do things more regularly during the year.
We went from cemetery to place flowers on the MUm in laws grave to my mums and back to our home where we spoiled the mrs it’s a lovely day and one that I always look forward to
Mainly because I am so busy either work wise or with my own kids and wife to spend enough time with my mum
I am sure I am not alone in that respect so to have a day that your focused on making sure you do the right thing it’s A good thing
We also make sure the whole family go to mass on the Sunday eve to pay the correct response for it’s original purpose and the mother church plus it’s free daffs for the mrs as the church gives them to the kids as they leave
Hate the cynical commercialisation but that said no harm, in an increasingly fast paced world, with having a day to draw breath and celebrate what is really important.
I find this a very sad posting, and for me you are completely wrong. So in my opinion is Stig. I suppose the real problem is apparently the large number of people who have not experienced a really happy family situation. I am someone for whom family is everything. Yesterday we entertained our daughter plus our grandchildren and our new great grandchild. The atmosphere in the house was full of love and fun. My two grandsons who are in their early twenties and single showed that they are going to be fantastic Uncles. My wife their Nan received cards and flowers in recognition of everything that she contributes to our family. I suggest that if you are young, but have not experienced such happiness, make sure that as you grow your family you spread love and support in all directions, you will receive the rewards in later life. To those of you moaning about buying cards, are you so weak that you feel you have to buy one. Show your true feelings. I feel sorry for you.
I find this a very sad posting, and for me you are completely wrong. So in my opinion is Stig. I suppose the real problem is apparently the large number of people who have not experienced a really happy family situation. I am someone for whom family is everything. Yesterday we entertained our daughter plus our grandchildren and our new great grandchild. The atmosphere in the house was full of love and fun. My two grandsons who are in their early twenties and single showed that they are going to be fantastic Uncles. My wife their Nan received cards and flowers in recognition of everything that she contributes to our family. I suggest that if you are young, but have not experienced such happiness, make sure that as you grow your family you spread love and support in all directions, you will receive the rewards in later life. To those of you moaning about buying cards, are you so weak that you feel you have to buy one. Show your true feelings. I feel sorry for you.
Good luck to you - but don't forget we are constantly bombarded on social media by pictures and stories of people whose lives seem much better than their own. It causes a huge amount of angst -particularly among teenagers.
I understand what you are saying Steve, but you are opening up a huge problem in this country. I believe that we need to start with our education system but it's too big a subject for this site. Just mention acid attacks and knife crime, I am very happy that I am in my final years, but God help the youngsters in my family !
I don't want to create a talking point that makes me appear to be a pointlessly boring and bitter person. It's not something I can change and starting a conversation about it on CL will not alter anything anyway.
I'm sure today has been a pleasant afternoon for a lot of people and it's a nice day for mother's to feel special and have some extra family time.
My point being is that I think, overall these things may cause more emotional stress for people then what makes it worth having.
If all is not well in the family it could simply just act as a horrible awkward reminder of a turbulent situation, especially if parents or, even worse, any children have passed away.
Of course, if you are grieving for a lost one, then that is going to be on your mind for every day of the year...it doesn't need a mother's Day to remind you of a suppressed memory.
Having said that...we just really don't NEED it. I'm not entirely sure why it began. Maybe I should do some more research.
On the balance of things, I might be wrong but I think mother's days bring misery to people in a way that out does the any joy part.
Does anyone agree or am I completely wrong?
It's a great day for greetings card manufacturers.
We've given up buying manufactured cards that will in all likelihood get thrown away a few days later. We now give good bars of chocolate with something suitable written on the wrapper. It doesn't look as good put on the mantlepiece but it gets put to better use when the day's over.
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Also my wife is all the Greenie Juniors stepmum, and she does loads for them, absolutely tons, they love her to bits, and they like to buy her gifts on Mums Day.
I am mindful that a lot of people my age dont have their Mum or Dad around anymore, so I dont go overboard with posts on FB on the day, what we do though is on the saturday night before Mums day we have family and friends round for dinner and a piss up as a celebration for all the mums. It works for us.
Fathers Day is a fabrication and has been unsurprisingly hijacked as a cash cow by the usual suspects. My kids know that i would frown on them wasting money they have not got on me just to fill Moonpig's coffers.
Mothers Day is a day of celebration for me as well as my mum. During my pomp, when i sort of had a successful career, i lost a regular contact with my mum, always too busy chasing the next payday. I regret that so much. It was only when my life hit the skids that i realised or had the time to, what my mother means to me. So yesterday, i got dragged to church, witnessed her try and get in the wrong side of the car twice, lose her place in the order of service constantly, walk back down into the wrong pew after receiving communion, fling rather than hand the hymn book at me after to take back, start to walk out of the wrong entrance to the church and call Roger the vicar Joe...
That's my mum. I dread the first Mothering Sunday i wake up and do not have the option of laughing and getting mildly irritated by her shenanigens.
As NLA said, now a day of reflection and have changed my mind on it slightly. Realised how much I missed my mum but gave me the opportunity to talk about her and reminisce with my family.
Mainly because I am so busy either work wise or with my own kids and wife to spend enough time with my mum
I am sure I am not alone in that respect so to have a day that your focused on making sure you do the right thing it’s A good thing
We also make sure the whole family go to mass on the Sunday eve to pay the correct response for it’s original purpose and the mother church plus it’s free daffs for the mrs as the church gives them to the kids as they leave
RIP to my Mum in my avatar.
I am someone for whom family is everything. Yesterday we entertained our daughter plus our grandchildren and our new great grandchild. The atmosphere in the house was full of love and fun. My two grandsons who are in their early twenties and single showed that they are going to be fantastic Uncles. My wife their Nan received cards and flowers in recognition of everything that she contributes to our family.
I suggest that if you are young, but have not experienced such happiness, make sure that as you grow your family you spread love and support in all directions, you will receive the rewards in later life.
To those of you moaning about buying cards, are you so weak that you feel you have to buy one. Show your true feelings. I feel sorry for you.