ADVICE NEEDED

DaveMehmet

Robbo on the wing said:

Take her for a Wimpy and throw in a knickerbocker glory.
That should sort it.

Knickerbocker glory? Didn’t have you down as a romantic mate. 

SoundAsa£

Is this friend of yours a football fan?
If so contact him and explain your predicament.....if he’s any sort of a mate I’m sure he will understand.
Anyway, your wife is going so your connection will be made.
I suspect what she’s feeling uncomfortable about is continually having to explain your absence to various friends and acquaintances. 

CharltonLad88

SoundAsa£ said:

Is this friend of yours a football fan?
If so contact him and explain your predicament.....if he’s any sort of a mate I’m sure he will understand.
Anyway, your wife is going so your connection will be made.
I suspect what she’s feeling uncomfortable about is continually having to explain your absence to various acquaintances. 

Spot on @So@"SoundAsa£", I think its just having to give out explanations etc. I could imagine her and ger friends will have a right bitch up about me. But will all be worth the agg and constant nagging if we get there. I missed '98 as I was 10 at the time and had to attend a family wedding then. Now 30 years old and definitely not missing out on this one.

Cafc43v3r

CharltonLad88 said:

SoundAsa£ said:

Is this friend of yours a football fan?
If so contact him and explain your predicament.....if he’s any sort of a mate I’m sure he will understand.
Anyway, your wife is going so your connection will be made.
I suspect what she’s feeling uncomfortable about is continually having to explain your absence to various acquaintances. 

Spot on @So@"SoundAsa£", I think its just having to give out explanations etc. I could imagine her and ger friends will have a right bitch up about me. But will all be worth the agg and constant nagging if we get there. I missed '98 as I was 10 at the time and had to attend a family wedding then. Now 30 years old and definitely not missing out on this one.

I went to the full members and the play off final and there is no way I would miss this, if we get there, maybe the birth of my own child but I wouldn't even go to my own wedding if it ment missing Charlton at Wembley.  May be the charity shield after back to back league titles? 

Croydon

Threads like this make me glad I'm single.

CharltonKerry

Croydon said:

Threads like this make me glad I'm single.

Threads like this make me realise that my marriage is no different to anyone else’s 😀.

NorthheathAddick

CharltonLad88 said:

Morning chaps. She wasn't as bad as you would of expected. I think because it hasn't been finalised yet she is waiting til Saturday morning to erupt if we get through. But at the moment she is just saying ok we will see on Friday night and see if you can get through first. I think this is the calm before the storm...

Sounds like there could be another twist to this tale...get her a little more excited about the playoff game by getting her to watch it too...she may even fancy that little trip of a lifetime to Wembley also...if it happens of course...🤞🏻

Robbo on the wing

DaveMehmet said:

Robbo on the wing said:

Take her for a Wimpy and throw in a knickerbocker glory.
That should sort it.

Knickerbocker glory? Didn’t have you down as a romantic mate. 

I was going to add " and a quick fingering at the bus stop" but thought that might get me in trouble.

MrLargo

Based on my understanding that she doesn't yet know that she's going to New York:

IF we manage to squeeze through on Friday, conversation on Saturday morning should be as follows - 

"I'm not missing the game. I understand you're upset, but I'm not willing to negotiate and I don't want to argue about it because, whatever you say to me, I'm definitely going to Wembley. 

However, I know you're disappointed, and I don't want you to feel sad or angry at me, so as soon as the game finished last night, I got onto British Airway's website and booked us a nice little trip to New York to make it up to you."

Then you slap the booking confirmation down on the table (don't forget to amend the times and dates on the email to show 11.30pm on Friday night rather than when you actually booked them). 

You're happy, she's happy, it's not cost you a penny that you weren't spending anyway.

Charlton_Stu

Robbo on the wing said:

DaveMehmet said:

Robbo on the wing said:

Take her for a Wimpy and throw in a knickerbocker glory.
That should sort it.

Knickerbocker glory? Didn’t have you down as a romantic mate. 

I was going to add " and a quick fingering at the bus stop" but thought that might get me in trouble.

Depends if there's anyone else at the bus stop 

cafcdave123

MrLargo said:

Based on my understanding that she doesn't yet know that she's going to New York:

IF we manage to squeeze through on Friday, conversation on Saturday morning should be as follows - 

"I'm not missing the game. I understand you're upset, but I'm not willing to negotiate and I don't want to argue about it because, whatever you say to me, I'm definitely going to Wembley. 

However, I know you're disappointed, and I don't want you to feel sad or angry at me, so as soon as the game finished last night, I got onto British Airway's website and booked us a nice little trip to New York to make it up to you."

Then you slap the booking confirmation your old boy down on the table (don't forget to amend the times and dates on the email to show 11.30pm on Friday night rather than when you actually booked them). 

You're happy, she's happy, it's not cost you a penny that you weren't spending anyway.

EFA

Covered End

If you go to Wembley, she won't forgive you for a long time.
If you don't go, especially if we win, you won't forgive her for a long time.
Go to the football.

kielyskickingboots

CharltonLad88 said:

She is still insisting that we are going to the wedding with my protestations falling on deaf ears. I went to the pub after I heard these words: "I hope Doncaster win on Friday now". 

Mate, will you do us all one small favour seeing as we're all seriously invested in this now? However it all turns out, will you promise us that you'll show her this thread and post a pic of her reading it??? 

The Red Robin

MrLargo said:

Based on my understanding that she doesn't yet know that she's going to New York:

IF we manage to squeeze through on Friday, conversation on Saturday morning should be as follows - 

"I'm not missing the game. I understand you're upset, but I'm not willing to negotiate and I don't want to argue about it because, whatever you say to me, I'm definitely going to Wembley. 

However, I know you're disappointed, and I don't want you to feel sad or angry at me, so as soon as the game finished last night, I got onto British Airway's website and booked us a nice little trip to New York to make it up to you."

Then you slap the booking confirmation down on the table (don't forget to amend the times and dates on the email to show 11.30pm on Friday night rather than when you actually booked them). 

You're happy, she's happy, it's not cost you a penny that you weren't spending anyway.

What she doesn't realise is it's the New York stadium. 

DaveMehmet

kielyskickingboots said:

CharltonLad88 said:

She is still insisting that we are going to the wedding with my protestations falling on deaf ears. I went to the pub after I heard these words: "I hope Doncaster win on Friday now". 

Mate, will you do us all one small favour seeing as we're all seriously invested in this now? However it all turns out, will you promise us that you'll show her this thread and post a pic of her reading it??? 

With her tit....... maybe not

CharltonLad88

Will keep you guys in the loop...

I think I'd be six feet under if she even read any of this 

Hertsseasider

I was thinking about this last night and thought reverse psychology could be the order of the day.

You sit her down and explain that you’ve been torn by all this but, your love for her knows no bounds and of course you’ll go to the wedding. It’s just a shame you can’t be with your mates watching the team you love but it’s what you really want to do. You’ll be a bit on edge during the day but just being with her will overcome this.

She’ll consider this and come to the conclusion that you’re such a nice guy, why should you miss out on the match and suggest you go. Make sure you have that bit on tape BTW.

I suggested this approach to Mrs HS and she said if it was her she say fcuk off and get yourself a decent suit……

cafcdave123

CharltonLad88 said:

Will keep you guys in the loop...

I think I'd be six feet under if she even read any of this 

imagine the mrs thinking you took relationship advice from here. so far you have been advised to shag her sister, post pictures of her sister and dump her and that is just by me!

RedChaser

CharltonLad88 said:

Will keep you guys in the loop...

I think I'd be six feet under if she even read any of this 

Ah now we're getting down to the real nitty gritty of who wears the trousers 

CharltonLad88

cafcdave123 said:

CharltonLad88 said:

Will keep you guys in the loop...

I think I'd be six feet under if she even read any of this 

imagine the mrs thinking you took relationship advice from here. so far you have been advised to shag her sister, post pictures of her sister and dump her and that is just by me!

Like someone has already stated on here @c@cafcdave123 have you ever thought about being a counsellor or working for the Samaritans?

ForeverAddickted

CharltonLad88 said:

cafcdave123 said:

CharltonLad88 said:

Will keep you guys in the loop...

I think I'd be six feet under if she even read any of this 

imagine the mrs thinking you took relationship advice from here. so far you have been advised to shag her sister, post pictures of her sister and dump her and that is just by me!

Like someone has already stated on here @c@cafcdave123 have you ever thought about being a counsellor or working for the Samaritans?

Would interfere too much with his full time job of being "Dear Deirdre" in Hello and Okay Magazines!!

RedChaser

Hertsseasider said:

I was thinking about this last night and thought reverse psychology could be the order of the day.

You sit her down and explain that you’ve been torn by all this but, your love for her knows no bounds and of course you’ll go to the wedding. It’s just a shame you can’t be with your mates watching the team you love but it’s what you really want to do. You’ll be a bit on edge during the day but just being with her will overcome this.

She’ll consider this and come to the conclusion that you’re such a nice guy, why should you miss out on the match and suggest you go. Make sure you have that bit on tape BTW.

I suggested this approach to Mrs HS and she said if it was her she say fcuk off and get yourself a decent suit……

Why would you need a decent suit for the football ? 

thickandthin63

Cant you just go in the evening,chances are if you are not that close a friend they wont miss you anyway,think you have to man up here.

DaveMehmet

thickandthin63 said:

Cant you just go in the evening,chances are if you are not that close a friend they wont miss you anyway,think you have to man up here.

And win or lose, turn up absolutely w*nk***d and be a complete pain all night.

cafcledbury

I think we should do the honourable thing and kidnap CharltonLad 88.

Chris_from_Sidcup

guinnessaddick said:

The game is on a Sunday? Who gets married on a Sunday?

It's a bank holiday though so Monday is off, so it's no different to a saturday on a normal weekend really.

Chris_from_Sidcup

ForeverAddickted said:

Does remind me when my Sister got married in 2010 though

They knew my Charlton support was going to be an issue so got from me a list of dates when Charlton were at home so they knew which games to avoid - they then of course booked the Wedding on the weekend of the Leeds United game @ the Valley ... 1-0 win when Randolph made that cracking save at the end and so kept us in touch with the automatic spots

Because they'd asked me dates and then booked on a Charlton home day I point blankly refused to attend the wedding so they were forced to move it a week - Got grief about it in the lead up to the wedding even got a snide remark in the Speeches

Have always had the last laugh though as the original day of the wedding was bloody awful in terms of weather; the day that it was moved to (Exeter away) saw beautiful sunshine, the day doesnt get mentioned anymore because when it would be brought up I'd always remind them that it was thanks to me they had the nice day

This is incredible.

Your sister had to rearrange her wedding so that you wouldn't miss Charlton v Leeds!!

Carter

I've thought about this log and hard (I generally post when I'm sat on the can) 

You need to stand up for yourself here mate whatever the cost. Worst case scenario this is the beginning if the end or the end of the end. Lots of brave posters saying bin her off etc but it isn't like that is it

Listen to mr largo, book up a long weekend in New York or Milan and put your foot down tempered with a treat. If she is honest with herself she will acknowledge she is pissed off at the thought of having to explain your absence, anyone with a soul will understand however you need to empathise that bit. Second off, this isn't a direct family wedding so it is already far lower down your list that a game that still may not happen, offer to stick an extra 100 quid in the card from both of you and a note 

Let's also remember it is still well within Charlton Athletic to fuck this up 

MuttleyCAFC

We know our own wives and girlfriends and of course they will react differently, but this is how I would play it. The Wembley issue should be left until after the game on Friday. Before it, tomorrow or Thursday, tell her about New York. Don't change any dates, you don't want her to think you have bought it to go to Wembley. Tell her you bought it because you love her. Then you will have a few days at least when you can do no wrong - use that to broach the wedding subject.

It may not work, but give her a chance to let you go before you you tell her you are going. 

Chris_from_Sidcup

MuttleyCAFC said:

We know our own wives and girlfriends and of course they will react differently, but this is how I would play it. The Wembley issue should be left until after the game on Friday. Before it, tomorrow or Thursday, tell her about New York. Don't change any dates, you don't want her to think you have bought it to go to Wembley. Tell her you bought it because you love her. Then you will have a few days at least when you can do no wrong - use that to broach the wedding subject.

It may not work, but give her a chance to let you go before you you tell her you are going. 

And if she says you're still not going, then tell her New York is cancelled and you're going on a 5 day binge to Ibiza instead........