My daughter was bullied at primary school, I volunteered to help out on a school trip and rather childishly, some may think, made sure I was staring at the girl involved (she was about 10 at the time) every time she looked up for virtually the whole day. In the end she complained to a teacher that she was feeling sick and never bothered my daughter again. The other way I told her to deal with it was with humour, sometimes if you can make the other person look silly and people around laugh at them they will back off and pick on someone else. Not easy if your son is not confident to do that. I really hope you find a solution as the few months prior to the school trip were horrible and as a mum (or dad) all you want to do is protect your kids and when the kids are young and in this situation it isn't always a simple thing to do.
My daughter was bullied at primary school, I volunteered to help out on a school trip and rather childishly, some may think, made sure I was staring at the girl involved (she was about 10 at the time) every time she looked up for virtually the whole day. In the end she complained to a teacher that she was feeling sick and never bothered my daughter again.
Bowie, I hope you don't mind me adding for clarity that you are female and not male.
Go round and see the dad of the kid, give him a clump and tell him every time his son bullies he will get more. He will soon stop his son.
yes but, and what if, his dad's a psycho spanner and sends me home with my head shoved up my arse. My boy will be well impressed.
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Bit off topic but when I was playing rugby our clubhouse was regularly broken into. We found out who it was and where he lived so the first and second team second rows paid him and his dad a visit. When his dad was confronted by four ugly as fcuk blokes whose average height was 6'7" and 18 stone, he soon convinced his son of the error of his ways...Intimidation can work in certain situations
Bit off topic but when I was playing rugby our clubhouse was regularly broken into. We found out who it was and where he lived so the first and second team second rows paid him and his dad a visit. When his dad was confronted by four ugly as fcuk blokes whose average height was 6'7" and 18 stone, he soon convinced his son of the error of his ways...Intimidation can work in certain situations
my adonis like physique and looks of Brad Pitt put paid to anything like that!
My son was verbally abused at the school,for a long while in year 3.He tried to do what the teachers said which was reporting it, but as he was about a foot taller than the the bully he wasn't taken seriously. I was called to the school and I am a big lad (6f4 and 18 stone) and the teacher looked like she was burst out laughing,with the small lad with his puny Dad.So it carried on.The boy was getting quite upset so I told him to take the time honoured option and stick one on the boy.He was worried about getting in trouble.I said he would get told off but it would stop. Next trick I have the Police at my door and the boy was threatened with all sorts!!! No one has bothered him since,now year 6,but be careful about fighting back if you dont want the Police involved!
In 21st Century Britain (and even 20th Century Britain to be fair) the bully is the victim and the real victim is the one punished should an attempt be made to exact any form of retribution on the bully.
Bit off topic but when I was playing rugby our clubhouse was regularly broken into. We found out who it was and where he lived so the first and second team second rows paid him and his dad a visit. When his dad was confronted by four ugly as fcuk blokes whose average height was 6'7" and 18 stone, he soon convinced his son of the error of his ways...Intimidation can work in certain situations
my adonis like physique and looks of Brad Pitt put paid to anything like that!
Schools and teachers know exactly what goes on and should be ashamed if they do not stamp it out. It's easy. Zero and I mean zero tolerance. One strike and you're out. Feel really sorry for kids that are bullied. Hope it works out well for those of you worried about your children.
Sorry but this is delusional.
What constitutes bullying?
A sly word in the lunch queue? Nasty comments on Facebook (which the school has no jurisdiction over) A punch on the road to school?
You want to exclude a child for saying a sly dig, or a 13 year old who thinks he is making a joke, but the receiver sees as/calls bullying?
What constitutes one strike?
Where would you like the child who has been excluded to go? (Remember the law that requires education/apprenticeship to 17)(18 by 2015)
You want to have a dig at teachers and schools for not being able to stamp it out? Then why don't you write the definitive book and enlighten those of us in the real world.
When teachers/schools see something definitive, then exclusions follow. It is a core declaration of every school.
But it is a far more complex issue than any 'simple' solution voiced on a football forum.
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The other way I told her to deal with it was with humour, sometimes if you can make the other person look silly and people around laugh at them they will back off and pick on someone else. Not easy if your son is not confident to do that.
I really hope you find a solution as the few months prior to the school trip were horrible and as a mum (or dad) all you want to do is protect your kids and when the kids are young and in this situation it isn't always a simple thing to do.
yes but, and what if, his dad's a psycho spanner and sends me home with my head shoved up my arse. My boy will be well impressed.
bring mates
At the Mottingham Methodist hall, monday nights in term time, 5.30 'til 7pm, £5. (7-15 year olds)
A nice lady teacher and a nice small bunch of kids.
bring mates
Bit off topic but when I was playing rugby our clubhouse was regularly broken into. We found out who it was and where he lived so the first and second team second rows paid him and his dad a visit. When his dad was confronted by four ugly as fcuk blokes whose average height was 6'7" and 18 stone, he soon convinced his son of the error of his ways...Intimidation can work in certain situations
my adonis like physique and looks of Brad Pitt put paid to anything like that!
my adonis like physique and looks of Brad Pitt put paid to anything like that!
Not forgetting your unique sense of humour :-)
What constitutes bullying?
A sly word in the lunch queue?
Nasty comments on Facebook (which the school has no jurisdiction over)
A punch on the road to school?
You want to exclude a child for saying a sly dig, or a 13 year old who thinks he is making a joke, but the receiver sees as/calls bullying?
What constitutes one strike?
Where would you like the child who has been excluded to go? (Remember the law that requires education/apprenticeship to 17)(18 by 2015)
You want to have a dig at teachers and schools for not being able to stamp it out?
Then why don't you write the definitive book and enlighten those of us in the real world.
When teachers/schools see something definitive, then exclusions follow. It is a core declaration of every school.
But it is a far more complex issue than any 'simple' solution voiced on a football forum.