OK for the benefit of those I did not see at the Charity game on Sunday the situation as explained to me is thus far.
Apparently this women has her last boyfriend 'Stalking' her, something she neglected to mention to me which is fair enough on a first date. Well apparently he was in the pub we were in when she did her dis-appearing act, she said she panicked. We went out last night & surprise surprise this 'Bloke' was in there again last night keeping tabs on us. He left at about an hour before us. Went back to her's last night I won't share all the details but when I was leaving at 3.30am this morning as I left through the porch a hand written A4 letter was sitting on the door matt. It was from ...Guess who...? Must admit the 40 minute walk home this morning was not the safest I had felt in a while.
Christ mate, thats one number to delete out of your phone... Just as the kids are calling you uncle Ketman your windows are getting put through and tires slashed. It's a no no on so many levels.
Nah dont abort. The boyfriend is obviously emotionally unstable but if he was going to commit any violence then he would have been waiting outside the pub or house.
Stay in there even if it is just for the sake of the children who will be desperately seeking a father figure.
PS For the next week or two slip a shiv into your sock - just in case like!
PPS If I ever get laid off from this shit hole, I should become an Agony Uncle.
[cite] Ketman:[/cite]Errrm Three young Kids who I have not even met yet, don't think it's best way to meet them for first time if you know what I mean!
Fair point. Is the psycho ex the father of the three kids? Assuming of course that they have the same father.
Has anyone mentioned the word "baggage" so far in this discussion?
Rereading this thread (and it's more interesting than anything else I've got to do today) the envelope through the door does at least support her story of being stalked by the ex (assuming of course that she didn't put it through her own letterbox or got one of the kids to do it). So that would appear genuine at least. Maybe we're all being a bit too harsh? Having three kids is not like having the plague you know. Maybe she just needs someone to give her a break*
Sorry at Lunch. Just realised how little I know about her really.
Name, No of Kids (All by same father), being stalked, Lives local err & Drinks Wine....that's it.
I don't know if she can cook, obviously attracts the wrong sort of bloke as well.
I get the impression people on here are inferring I should Hump it then dump it, pretty callous if you ask me. Will see her again for sure, just gotta make sure emotions are kept in check.
Bit of double standard operating here. If she is the same age as Ketman (mid 30s) then three kids is not surprising but all the inference around "different" dads grates. Ditto baggage. By that age what man or woman isn't going to have baggage or be married.
Have to say I still worry about her drinking but maybe that's just me. Take it slowly and see how it works out before overcomitting yourself. Maybe if she has had some dodgy blokes a fine upstanding person such as yourself is what she needs in her life.
[cite] Henry Irving:[/cite]Good on you ketman for sticking with it.
Bit of double standard operating here. If she is the same age as Ketman (mid 30s) then three kids is not surprising but all the inference around "different" dads grates. Ditto baggage. By that age what man or woman isn't going to have baggage or be married.
Have to say I still worry about her drinking but maybe that's just me. Take it slowly and see how it works out before overcomitting yourself. Maybe if she has had some dodgy blokes a fine upstanding person such as yourself is what she needs in her life.
oh get off your high horse henry, the whole thread is being treated as a joke surely .
anyway you say the different dad grates but yet you then infer she's an alchy.
i have no baggage whatsover and im ketmans age. perhaps im the odd one out.
he's not a near stranger, he's met her a few times.
have a laugh and generalise guys, its been a great thread, but lets not get too judgemental on how people live their lives, particularly as it appears Ketman appears keen, something we weren't really aware of at first.
If it was a bloke with three kids would people ask if they were with different mothers? Most likely how many kids he had would not have even been a question. It's the old stud/slag thing.
And Ketman had already described her drinking so it wasn't speculation merely a comment on a fact.
re:baggage present company excluded of course and of course it's all a bit of fun but I enjoy getting on my high horse sometimes. : )
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Apparently this women has her last boyfriend 'Stalking' her, something she neglected to mention to me which is fair enough on a first date. Well apparently he was in the pub we were in when she did her dis-appearing act, she said she panicked. We went out last night & surprise surprise this 'Bloke' was in there again last night keeping tabs on us. He left at about an hour before us. Went back to her's last night I won't share all the details but when I was leaving at 3.30am this morning as I left through the porch a hand written A4 letter was sitting on the door matt. It was from ...Guess who...? Must admit the 40 minute walk home this morning was not the safest I had felt in a while.
3 kids and a maniac ex boyfriend.
Get out now whilst you can :-)))
good luck fella, looks like your gonna need it !
Wait to she tells you about her brother who's currently doing a 10-stretch :-)
Christ mate, thats one number to delete out of your phone... Just as the kids are calling you uncle Ketman your windows are getting put through and tires slashed. It's a no no on so many levels.
Stay in there even if it is just for the sake of the children who will be desperately seeking a father figure.
PS For the next week or two slip a shiv into your sock - just in case like!
PPS If I ever get laid off from this shit hole, I should become an Agony Uncle.
Fair point. Is the psycho ex the father of the three kids? Assuming of course that they have the same father.
Has anyone mentioned the word "baggage" so far in this discussion?
Vary wary of upsetting children & do not want them to get the wrong impression.
reckon she could rustle up some eccles cakes ?
very important that a woman can bake in my opinion...
*No, I don't believe me either
Name, No of Kids (All by same father), being stalked, Lives local err & Drinks Wine....that's it.
I don't know if she can cook, obviously attracts the wrong sort of bloke as well.
I get the impression people on here are inferring I should Hump it then dump it, pretty callous if you ask me. Will see her again for sure, just gotta make sure emotions are kept in check.
lol. he looks "fairly" intelligent :-))so id say he acted responsibly.
Bit of double standard operating here. If she is the same age as Ketman (mid 30s) then three kids is not surprising but all the inference around "different" dads grates. Ditto baggage. By that age what man or woman isn't going to have baggage or be married.
Have to say I still worry about her drinking but maybe that's just me. Take it slowly and see how it works out before overcomitting yourself. Maybe if she has had some dodgy blokes a fine upstanding person such as yourself is what she needs in her life.
But don't bring her on here, not until these threads sink back down the list anyway!!!!
oh get off your high horse henry, the whole thread is being treated as a joke surely .
anyway you say the different dad grates but yet you then infer she's an alchy.
i have no baggage whatsover and im ketmans age. perhaps im the odd one out.
he's not a near stranger, he's met her a few times.
have a laugh and generalise guys, its been a great thread, but lets not get too judgemental on how people live their lives, particularly as it appears Ketman appears keen, something we weren't really aware of at first.
And Ketman had already described her drinking so it wasn't speculation merely a comment on a fact.
re:baggage present company excluded of course and of course it's all a bit of fun but I enjoy getting on my high horse sometimes. : )