LinkedIn: Alexander Carter-Silk and Charlotte Proudman

IA

BBC article said:

In the message, Mr Carter-Silk wrote: "Charlotte, delighted to connect..."

I don't need any more evidence. Bloke's a wanker.

cabbles

Bloody hell. This is what I hate about the professional world. She has a smug face you want to smack with a lexisnexis hard copy. The other guy has tried to back track by saying he thought the photo was very 'professional'. Basically the old sleaze thought he'd try a bit of flirting and it back fired.

However she thinks the whole world wants to know or gives a shit about an exchange two (I'm assuming here) people with big opinions of themselves have had. If I got a connection invite from a male or female person on LinkedIn that said that it really wouldn't bother me.

Everyone has a different threshold with what they deem acceptable but the smugness on her face.

Weegie Addick

Bizarre. So am I right in saying she originally asked him to connect? Yes, his response was maybe a little ott, but can't help thinking he fell straight into a trap...

EastTerrace

Jesus, she'd better not come in to our workplace with our innuendo based smut and I work mostly with women.

Addick Addict

His comments were not just somewhat naive but belong to a bygone era. Sadly her attempt to use every outlet available to express her "outrage" only serves to undermine those who do have serious grievances about those who they come into contact with through work.

cafcnick1992

Bloke compliments a woman. Woman ruins his career.

Alwaysneil

Thankfully I am ignorant on this one. Is it a news item? I blame Rupert Murdoch if so.

Brendan_O_Connell

I have the same problem as her, just because I'm stunningly beautiful means people judge me as being stupid. They say ''how can someone so amazingly attractive be so intelligent and good at their job''' but I am. I'm the best..........

Leuth

Well, this thread went as expected!

I severely doubt she's ruined his career. I do feel he and others might think twice before acting the letch unbidden over social media, though

Leaburns Daddy

Leuth said:

Well, this thread went as expected!

I severely doubt she's ruined his career. I do feel he and others might think twice before acting the letch unbidden over social media, though

Stunning legs you have gorgeous.

nth_london_addick

Leuth said:

Well, this thread went as expected!

I severely doubt she's ruined his career. I do feel he and others might think twice before acting the letch unbidden over social media, though

As will be pics of her snatch and rack brilliant the Internet ain't it, didn't know a marrow can go in there now I do though

se9addick

Addick Addict said:

His comments were not just somewhat naive but belong to a bygone era. Sadly her attempt to use every outlet available to express her "outrage" only serves to undermine those who do have serious grievances about those who they come into contact with through work.

His comments "belong to a bygone era" ? Have you read his comments ?

When I first heard this story I assumed he'd said something ridiculously objectifying women or straight out propositioned her. He didn't. He complemented her on a picture she'd published online that was attached to the communication she'd sent him.

I'm pretty liberal and there is definitely an issue with sexism in the work place that needs to be addressed but I actually think this scenario detracts from genuine cases of sexism and overall undermines the cause.

masicat

I hate misogyny, and he shouldn't talk to a typist like that.

Addick Addict

se9addick said:

Addick Addict said:

His comments were not just somewhat naive but belong to a bygone era. Sadly her attempt to use every outlet available to express her "outrage" only serves to undermine those who do have serious grievances about those who they come into contact with through work.

His comments "belong to a bygone era" ? Have you read his comments ?

When I first heard this story I assumed he'd said something ridiculously objectifying women or straight out propositioned her. He didn't. He complemented her on a picture she'd published online that was attached to the communication she'd sent him.

I'm pretty liberal and there is definitely an issue with sexism in the work place that needs to be addressed but I actually think this scenario detracts from genuine cases of sexism and overall undermines the cause.

I have read his comments and stand by my reference to "bygone era". Glad to see that you don't disagree with my comment "Sadly her attempt to use every outlet available to express her "outrage" only serves to undermine those who do have serious grievances about those who they come into contact with through work". when you state ""but I actually think this scenario detracts from genuine cases of sexism and overall undermines the cause" though.

WSS

Looks like her old man thinks she's hot as well:

http://metro.co.uk/2015/09/10/sexist-lawyer-also-called-his-daughter-hot-on-her-facebook-page-5385895/

ForeverAddickted

Yet once again its allowed when the boot is on the other foot?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3229951/Ooh-la-la-hot-stuff-s-prim-barrister-centre-sexism-storm-said-men-ogled-web.html

stonemuse

ForeverAddickted said:

Yet once again its allowed when the boot is on the other foot?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3229951/Ooh-la-la-hot-stuff-s-prim-barrister-centre-sexism-storm-said-men-ogled-web.html

ooops

Curb_It

All a load of embarrassing nonsense.

LargeAddick

bloody hell - is flirting a crime now?

guinnessaddick

WSS said:

Looks like her old man thinks she's hot as well:

http://metro.co.uk/2015/09/10/sexist-lawyer-also-called-his-daughter-hot-on-her-facebook-page-5385895/

Do they live in Norwich?

You may say that your daughter is beautiful, but to say she is hot, is just wrong.

Goonerhater

so if your working with a female colleague for a good while and she comes in after having her hair done is it now a "PC crime" to tell her that her hair looks nice ?

DaveMehmet

Goonerhater said:

so if your working with a female colleague for a good while and she comes in after having her hair done is it now a "PC crime" to tell her that her hair looks nice ?

It is if you've got a hard on.

Addicted

She saw a chance for 5 mins of fame and took it. Makes her look like a right prat though. Wonder if her or the like has ever commented on a blokes looks/suit etc?

IA

ForeverAddickted said:

Yet once again its allowed when the boot is on the other foot?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3229951/Ooh-la-la-hot-stuff-s-prim-barrister-centre-sexism-storm-said-men-ogled-web.html

Imagine being the person whose job it is to trawl someone's social media profiles to find random comments from mid-2014 that contradict what they're saying now.

cafcfan

legalcheek.com/2015/09/boss-of-top-legal-aid-firm-vows-to-never-instruct-linkedin-message-barrister-charlotte-proudman-again/

Some interesting stuff on here. In particular, from a couple of posters who point out that the actual words used complimented the quality of the photograph rather than the subject of the photograph.

She's merely a junior barrister, presently taking time out according to her page on her chambers web site - "Charlotte has taken sabbatical from practice in order to complete a PhD in Political Sociology at the University of Cambridge".

So, she's been in the trade for a paltry four or five years and is already off doing something non-work related. I leave you to draw your own conclusions from that.

In this matter she has demonstrated a lack of two skills that a good lawyer really, really needs. First, the ability to read and correctly understand the meaning of words and the order they are written in; and second, the ability to keep private correspondence, well, private.

It's difficult to see her getting much work any time soon unless an upcoming series of The Apprentice has a spare space for another loud-mouthed, self-promoting egoist of course.

TelMc32

ForeverAddickted said:

Yet once again its allowed when the boot is on the other foot?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3229951/Ooh-la-la-hot-stuff-s-prim-barrister-centre-sexism-storm-said-men-ogled-web.html

Let he/she who is without sin cast the first stone! Ms Proudman is obviously not as clever as she thinks she is, if she thought no-one would start trawling her own social media once she made something like this very public.

As for Mr Carter-Silk, I think the comment about his own daughter is far, far worse.

cabbles

cafcfan said:

legalcheek.com/2015/09/boss-of-top-legal-aid-firm-vows-to-never-instruct-linkedin-message-barrister-charlotte-proudman-again/

Some interesting stuff on here. In particular, from a couple of posters who point out that the actual words used complimented the quality of the photograph rather than the subject of the photograph.

She's merely a junior barrister, presently taking time out according to her page on her chambers web site - "Charlotte has taken sabbatical from practice in order to complete a PhD in Political Sociology at the University of Cambridge".

So, she's been in the trade for a paltry four or five years and is already off doing something non-work related. I leave you to draw your own conclusions from that.

In this matter she has demonstrated a lack of two skills that a good lawyer really, really needs. First, the ability to read and correctly understand the meaning of words and the order they are written in; and second, the ability to keep private correspondence, well, private.

It's difficult to see her getting much work any time soon unless an upcoming series of The Apprentice has a spare space for another loud-mouthed, self-promoting egoist of course.

Good post. I like the sabbatical bit after 4-5 years. That's the spirit. Also, note the other papers and media outlets running with this story now, the Metro, Daily Mail. This is the sort of bollocks these titles loves. I could see Evening Standard running a feature on this next week sometime. They're running out of stories involving 'cool new work spaces in Silicon roundabout' and 'London's hippest new entrepreneurs and how they spend their money'

aliwibble

WSS said:

Looks like her old man thinks she's hot as well:

http://metro.co.uk/2015/09/10/sexist-lawyer-also-called-his-daughter-hot-on-her-facebook-page-5385895/

Er no WSS. It's the same lawyer who made the unfortunate comment to her, making an unfortunate comment about his own daughter. Personally I think he knew he was pushing his luck, which was why he mentioned it "not being politically correct", and she was right to be pissed off. However, if it was just a one-off, I don't think she was right to make it public.

Those trying to make her out to be a hypocrite because she's made comments about guys on Facebook are missing the point spectacularly though. LinkedIn is meant to be a professional network, and Facebook isn't, so the standards of acceptable behaviour are different on each. Just like trying to flirt with random women in the pub is fine, but it's not acceptable with colleages or potential clients in the office.

DA9

aliwibble said:

WSS said:

Looks like her old man thinks she's hot as well:

http://metro.co.uk/2015/09/10/sexist-lawyer-also-called-his-daughter-hot-on-her-facebook-page-5385895/

Er no WSS. It's the same lawyer who made the unfortunate comment to her, making an unfortunate comment about his own daughter. Personally I think he knew he was pushing his luck, which was why he mentioned it "not being politically correct", and she was right to be pissed off. However, if it was just a one-off, I don't think she was right to make it public.

Those trying to make her out to be a hypocrite because she's made comments about guys on Facebook are missing the point spectacularly though. LinkedIn is meant to be a professional network, and Facebook isn't, so the standards of acceptable behaviour are different on each. Just like trying to flirt with random women in the pub is fine, but it's not acceptable with colleages or potential clients in the office.

Let's all agree that he was wrong to make a crass comment on a website that supposedly has a professional image and purpose for business networking, ok, so let's park that, he was wrong, she was right, like farting in church.

She ranted on about about him/men objectifying women, when clearly she has objectified men with comments such as "hot stuff" and "oh la la" when commenting on Facebook photos. Regardless of which website it was said on, it's the same thing.
My feeling is if it had been a young "hot stuff" male who contacted her on LinkedIn she would have reacted entirely differently.

NomadicAddick

They're now engaged.