It's highly likely that my Girlfriend will get into Uni so in September or so she will be off to study in Birmingham.
Has anybody been part of/is part of a long distance relationship? What are your experiences? Is it possible?!
I suppose it isn't so bad as it's not like she will never be back at home... but still?!
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Thanks though.
Think of it this way:
You get more weekends with the lads. The ones she isn't massively busy you could go and visit her.
She will also come home from time to time (outside of term etc).
If you're meant to be it'll all work out.
Oh and don't give in to temptation, no matter how far away they are, they're just a train journey away if you really can't wait to smash it
they need a new job then!
Appreciate advice though guys.
I can assure you long terms relationships are hard and making time to chat is not always easy, you have to accept this and not get to wound up if your partner cant speak to you everyday.
My wife is in the UK with my son and I am in Dubai so I do understand the frustrations
I wish my Mrs would piss off to Birmingham.
Yeah, I'm not pushy or anything and get that she will be having the time of her life. Trust me, sometimes I wish we could go a day or two without speaking :-)
Wow, ouch!
My experience and of people I know who also had long distance relationships is that they don't survive. Despite improving comms technology today like Skype etc. you can't replace the need for close contact.
Also if she is off to uni, there is a chance she will be having a great time meeting lots of new friends in a new part of the country for her and whether people admit it or not, this does also have a huge impact. Maybe not the first few weeks or months but over time it changes. I remember going out with a girl in my first term up in Edinburgh and found out she had a boyfriend back in her home town of Cheltenham.
Sorry to be on the negative side but I have seen it from both angles and, well you wanted some advice.
On the plus side, Brum isn't too far away (well it's not Japan) and you could keep visiting quite easily.
Good luck anyway.
Ended in anticipation of Uni on good terms.
It lasted 3 weeks then we couldn't do it and have decided to give it a go...
Thai's other advice is good though. It is sometimes hard to fit time in to catch up, so make the most of the time you can.
Having being used to seeing someone all the time, can see that being a lot more difficult.
I was right last time, she was stringing me along and using a heart condition to do it. Very unique. However, Henry Irving in getting it wrong shocker. : - )
She's going to go through a major personal development phase, don't expect her to be exactly the same person that she is today in six months or a years time. I'm not saying she's going to become a completely different person but people grow, they have to and and there's a good chance you'll still love who she is, but be prepared for that so it doesn't shock you.
Oh, and whatever you do, definitely don't break up with her before Freshers week !
Uni is difficult because there's gonna be a lot of new experiences (hurr hurr) available to her and I don't know of too many relationships that survived it. But is it possible? Of course it is!
Sorry
The laptop, ps3 and a few other bits came with me to pass time whilst she was in lectures etc, then as soon as her day was done I'd meet up with her and her friends (get on well with them and it improves chances of survival) we'd go out to dinner or drinking etc.
Remember she'll be dividing time between you, her family and uni. Make some of the time with her family and you mixed and it makes life easier.
Me and my other half are something of an anomoly these days having been together from a young age. As I said before it will be tough but if you're meant for each other you'll make it work.
Freshers week I was there at her request, I enjoyed it with her, so much booze, so many laughs and so many memories. I can guarantee that is where many are led astray.
If she's in halls as opposed to rented accommodation you may find it harder to visit her.
I suppose the flip side of that is that in the summer when she gets back I can take all my 28 days in one go if I so wish.
However it can work -I did it ( I was the one that went away), and have been happily married to the same girl for 22 years, although I was the only one on my course who didnt split up with the person they were with before university. Give it a go - you wont know unless you try.