A Few people have asked about how the last so called date worked out with the lady with Three kids etc.
I decided at the time in order to reach the age of 40 which I am now I would need to avoid taking this one any further or risk some horrible death with an axe at the hands of her ex who was stalking her.
I have bumped into her a few times since as I have her Stalker, in hindsight (Great thing that) I stand by my decision.
did you bump into her in a pub by any chance? Was the stalker standing ten paces behind? point of order re adrians advice can we remember he is in his 70s so should know a thing or two about ladies. Maybe....
Just goin back to the bird at work, if she cant even reply to your email then perhaps she not as nice a person as you originally thought. Ignoring you is just plain rude mate.
[cite]Posted By: ValleyGary[/cite]Just goin back to the bird at work, if she cant even reply to your email then perhaps she not as nice a person as you originally thought. Ignoring you is just plain rude mate.
That's one way of looking at it I suppose, I prefer to think she's speechless & not sure how to respond, gonna be an interesting conversation next time we meet in the tea room that is for sure.
Oh Ketters, you should have just asked her for a drink face to face.
Emails, msm, any of that cyber stuff is just playing games to us females.
You can't tell if someones being genuine otherwise. She probably just thinks you left yourself logged on & the office joker sent it.
Its not too late. If you really do like her ask her.
I dont understand this? I've asked guys out in my youth. Yeah it was nervous but what have you really got to loose? A bit of face. Trust me, you get over it.
I wouldnt think it was a joke ketman. Specially as she probably knows you're a shyish (in that regard) type. It breaks the ice without having the horrible feeling of standing in front of someone.
i think for us to truly be able to analyse what's happening here we could really do with a copy of the email you sent. Any chance? And your certian she's not been out of the office? It is strange that she hasn't replied. I don't think it's all over yet.
Well I have just had my E-mail response this morning. I won't type it word for word but basically it just said that she was Shocked & Surprised by the invite. She is flattered & although we get on really well yadda yadda she wants to keep the friendship work based. She also said she hopes things will not be awkward in future.
So overall, hopefully no harm down. Thanks to everyone on here for the support, would never have done it without being pushed by a few on here, & thank you for all the mickey taking, it's actually made me laugh quite a bit the last couple of days & has made me not take the whole thing too personally.
Well done for doing it mate, I know it takes allot of bottle. Had you not done it you'd still be wondering what if, nothing ventured nothing gained as they say.
I did warn you not to tell her you knew Dicko though!
I always used to say when I got a knockback. It's better to have found out because now I can move on to the next young lady, rather than waste my time wondering and hoping. The old myth about there being a special someone out there for everyone is rubbish. There are probably about 20 just in your home town, and the quicker you have a crack, and move on the closer you are to finding one that is right for you. Good on you for having a go. Next!
You seem to be a big hit on here Ketman. Would any of the female Charlton lifers not be interested in joining you for an evening of romance? Not trying to turn this into a dating agency obviously but we could watch the whole thing play out on here and see the beautiful union of 2 lonely hearts (video optional). Everyone's a winner.
At least she replied so it shows she's not heartless and is a geniunely nice woman.
It's a good job you did ask though as without the email you'd still be sitting there wondering how to ask her out.
Good try, Ketters ...no harm done and better luck with your next, erm, venture.
I wouldn't do emails a next time though.
If it's a work based situation just pick a group thing, like a leaving do or a Friday 'anyone going down the pub for a bite?' lunchtime and just chat away - if a woman likes you, you'll soon pick up the vibe. She might even tell you a few things about herself, like when she goes out with her chums, the place she lives in, whether she's actually (unknown to you) got involved with somebody new, or still trying to get over her ex; or that she's devoted to oil painting in her studio, or spends all her spare time playing in a band, or studying to be a brain surgeon - so doesn't have time for a relationship.
Or she's a Jehovah's Witness.
Just tell her how you really enjoyed chatting with her, and see how she responds.
If recipricated, next time just pick up where you left off before, as the ice has already been broken - and then up the ante.
Without being pushy take the lead, and after a bit of easy chat tell her you'd like to meet her for a drink, iceskating, bowling, something she's already told you that she likes doing or whatever - and is she busy on Friday night?
Or go on holiday in small town America, where the women will be falling at your feet, because of your English accent.
* Taken from "How to pull a bird when you're really shy", by Oggy Red, published by Stutter & Howto.
Chapter 3, p47
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I decided at the time in order to reach the age of 40 which I am now I would need to avoid taking this one any further or risk some horrible death with an axe at the hands of her ex who was stalking her.
I have bumped into her a few times since as I have her Stalker, in hindsight (Great thing that) I stand by my decision.
That's one way of looking at it I suppose, I prefer to think she's speechless & not sure how to respond, gonna be an interesting conversation next time we meet in the tea room that is for sure.
Emails, msm, any of that cyber stuff is just playing games to us females.
You can't tell if someones being genuine otherwise. She probably just thinks you left yourself logged on & the office joker sent it.
Its not too late. If you really do like her ask her.
I dont understand this? I've asked guys out in my youth. Yeah it was nervous but what have you really got to loose? A bit of face. Trust me, you get over it.
Good luck honey x
Would be a good line to drop in when she asks you to pass the sugar.
What a moo to not even respond.
Just dress up at Tony the Tiger and tell her you're grrrrrrrreat!
So overall, hopefully no harm down. Thanks to everyone on here for the support, would never have done it without being pushed by a few on here, & thank you for all the mickey taking, it's actually made me laugh quite a bit the last couple of days & has made me not take the whole thing too personally.
I did warn you not to tell her you knew Dicko though!
I think you're braver to share all this with us muppets on here - surely that's harder than asking someone out?! Keep the faith...
PS Oggy - Surely even 45 is rather on the young side for a man of your age? ;-) ;-)
It's a good job you did ask though as without the email you'd still be sitting there wondering how to ask her out.
I wouldn't do emails a next time though.
If it's a work based situation just pick a group thing, like a leaving do or a Friday 'anyone going down the pub for a bite?' lunchtime and just chat away - if a woman likes you, you'll soon pick up the vibe. She might even tell you a few things about herself, like when she goes out with her chums, the place she lives in, whether she's actually (unknown to you) got involved with somebody new, or still trying to get over her ex; or that she's devoted to oil painting in her studio, or spends all her spare time playing in a band, or studying to be a brain surgeon - so doesn't have time for a relationship.
Or she's a Jehovah's Witness.
Just tell her how you really enjoyed chatting with her, and see how she responds.
If recipricated, next time just pick up where you left off before, as the ice has already been broken - and then up the ante.
Without being pushy take the lead, and after a bit of easy chat tell her you'd like to meet her for a drink, iceskating, bowling, something she's already told you that she likes doing or whatever - and is she busy on Friday night?
Or go on holiday in small town America, where the women will be falling at your feet, because of your English accent.
* Taken from "How to pull a bird when you're really shy", by Oggy Red, published by Stutter & Howto.
Chapter 3, p47
Ah, but Weegie, in the words of Bob Dylan:
"I was so much older then, but I'm younger than that now".
PS: I can't believe somebody actually read my "Ask Ali" letter drivel.
Please remind me not to post when I get back home from the pub (!)
Sound advice!!!
It seems to be working for this chap!
Evidently, he took my advice.
"Ask Ali" has real competition!
ditto. it really does work!