[cite]Posted By: March51[/cite]Thanks Oggy, and me an ex-Health & Safety bloke to boot! The punch-line really is that the hospital rigged me up with a 72 hour heart monitor yesterday morning so heaven knows what sort of readings they'll get from my mad dashes up and down the garden! I'll probably be in for a three way by-pass next week.
I'd love to see their faces when you say "oh yeah, that was probably when my feet caught light".
This thread is so full of win it's unreal. Highlights how different everyone is, how their experiences have sometimes been pretty grim, but also how people can pull together to support each other. I've enjoyed immensely (if 'enjoyed' is the appropriate word to use) reading other peoples' experiences - even the tough ones. Oggy's words made even a miserable old turd like me well up. I get the piss taken out of me a lot by people for being a bit 'hard-ass' about decisions I make, and the fact that I don't regret making them - even though it often appears I've dropped a bollock. Reading these posts, I'm starting to think maybe the reason I'm like that is because I haven't really experienced anything like them myself, so really have no major decisions go wrong to have 'regretted' them.
It's also made me go back through the last twenty-odd years and examine decisions I made to see if there are any I 'regret' - and I think I've found one. About fifteen years ago, a very good friend of mine was with a girl who I absolutely hated. Eventually - being the insensitive, argumentative prick that I am - I told her exactly what I thought of her - to her face, with my mate there at the time. Fifteen years later, they're still together, have two gorgeous kids and I regret doing it - simply because it soured my relationship with my mate.
Oggy I really feel for you but I do believe that your daughter will eventually come round. Meantime take comfort in the fact that you did all you could for your children and that you helped to make your son the person that he is today. I'm sure he never regrets for one minute leaving with you. And on that subject just think that, if you hadn't married the person you despise so much now, you wouldn't have had ever had those very children.
As for me I have too many regrets to list on here, none of which are anyway near as meaningful or worthy as most of those expressed on here. I have a wonderful wife, two fantastic sons (a 17 year old from my first marriage and a 7 year old courtesy of the current Mrs) both of whom I have no doubt will be successes in life and find the inner happiness that their father never had. But if they do then that might just bring a smile to my face. No promises on that count though!
Hi AA, thanks for your thoughtful words, and certainly I hope you're proved right!
And of course, what you say is very true ...... I couldn't have had the beautiful children I have had without my ex-wife.
Incidently, I don't despise or hate her - after all the difficulties and pain of the past, she can't directly hurt me any more.
I just really wish I had made a better choice.
Ah....... the wisdom of hindsight!
I'm intrigued with your comment, "and find the inner happiness that their father never had". But you do have that inner happiness right now, as you speak so lovingly of your family around you.
[cite]Posted By: Leroy Ambrose[/cite]Fifteen years later, they're still together, have two gorgeous kids and I regret doing it - simply because it soured my relationship with my mate.
There - I CAN admit to making mistakes )
Have you spoken to either of them about it recently, Leroy?
Neither they or you are exactly the same people today as you were 15 years ago ......you're all more experienced in life, with more maturity.
When we're younger, often ego gets in the way, As we get older a little humility and humbleness can trigger a change of attitudes. Sometimes, all it takes is the right moment to aproach your old friend, and tell him how sorry you are.
[cite]Posted By: Leroy Ambrose[/cite]Fifteen years later, they're still together, have two gorgeous kids and I regret doing it - simply because it soured my relationship with my mate.
There - I CAN admit to making mistakes )
Have you spoken to either of them about it recently, Leroy?
Neither they or you are exactly the same people today as you were 15 years ago ......you're all more experienced in life, with more maturity.
When we're younger, often ego gets in the way, As we get older a little humility and humbleness can trigger a change of attitudes. Sometimes, all it takes is the right moment to aproach your old friend, and tell him how sorry you are.
Yeah - I've done that. Reached out a couple of times in the past few years, but received a polite, but firm rebuff. Fair enough - I was a twat, I can live with that.
Leroy have you thought may be you was jealous of your mates GF thats why u slagged her off ? and may be if you contacted the "village person" within yourself you could actually embrace the side of you that is pink and within the wardrobe ? ( was gona say closet but wasnt sure i could spell it ). Maybe going into IT and "switching things on and off again" is really a cry for help re sexuality ?Just here to help mate as always.
[cite]Posted By: Goonerhater[/cite]Leroy have you thought may be you was jealous of your mates GF thats why u slagged her off ? and may be if you contacted the "village person" within yourself you could actually embrace the side of you that is pink and within the wardrobe ? ( was gona say closet but wasnt sure i could spell it ). Maybe going into IT and "switching things on and off again" is really a cry for help re sexuality ?Just here to help mate as always.
good thread through.
You're just dialling it in now. Jibes about my sexuality and the futility of my job? Give it up fella - once you get that low and predictable you're about fifteen minutes away from being draped round the anchor at the top of Deptford High St with a bottle of Merrydown in your hand mopping the piss stains off your jeans.
Moving to Wales and it not working out is a big regret,relationship with ex-went tits up,relationship with middle step daughter disintegrated into screaming rows(I look back and can't believe what an absolute tosser I was) and having to leave my little boy behind broke my heart
Thankfully things are very amicable with my ex I get to see my little 'un whenever I want(he's down for the Bournemouth game) but I miss him very badly and I've patched things up with my step-daughter so things are on the mend there.
Not sure if its a "regret",but in 1998 I stood up to Lewisham Council when being accussed of Racism. ("Won" the courtcase at Bellmarsh after 2 days).
Lost my Wife, Job, House and alot of (what little I had) Sanity. Am on "Happy Pills" for the rest of my days because of this.
But, I would do it all again: Started "afresh" in 2000, now am buying aflat in SE26, trying to rebuild my work and have the lovely Sandra (Mrs MOG) by my side.
sounds soppy but mine has got to be treating my ex without the respect she deserved. In the end she got fed up with me and now im sitting in my pants watching top gear on my own. Still, im only 26 and im a believer that all things happen for a reason....
This...............but older and should be wiser but did it again!!
No real regrets. Would like to have met my wife earlier, was only half the man I am now before we got together, I owe her a lot. If we'd had our daughter earlier would like to have had more kids (44 now, too late) but feel bloody lucky to have her.
Did OK at school, didn't make the most of education but have done fairly well at work so can't complain.
Wish I hadn't cut short a new year's break in Amsterdam to come home and watch Charlton lose 4-2 against Southampton at Sellhurst.
LOL, sorry mate it's true. I may give the impression that I've got lower morals than an alley cat but it's all bollox! Would never even dream of doing anything to hurt her, I know what side my bread is butered!
Got a big life decision to make in the next month or so that will ,if I choose to do it,make things stressful for the next 4-5 years but after that will ,I hope,provide a stability to me and mine probably for the rest of my days. It will absorb a lot of my spare time leaving not a lot left for the wife and kids.and that's what worries me the most.
Just read your words from a while back oggster. Big shame about your daughter but Sounds like the boy's done good. Would love to be a shipwright! Presumably he's doing it in your neck of the woods in yokel country?
No South Africa, she came back and I was seeing someone then she completely screwed with my head then left again. Haven't been with anyone since just waiting for that text but doubt it.
Just read your words from a while back oggster. Big shame about your daughter but Sounds like the boy's done good. Would love to be a shipwright! Presumably he's doing it in your neck of the woods in yokel country?
Many thanks, Boom.
My lad jacked it in (along with the big money) last year, got accepted at Uni without A levels, had to do a Foundation year which he passed with 70% mark and max credits. Last summer he qualified as a diving instructor.
Not joining the Royal Marines, after failing athe medical when I was 15-16, I started training to get fitter, but then I discovered birds and lager and it fizzled out.
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It's also made me go back through the last twenty-odd years and examine decisions I made to see if there are any I 'regret' - and I think I've found one. About fifteen years ago, a very good friend of mine was with a girl who I absolutely hated. Eventually - being the insensitive, argumentative prick that I am - I told her exactly what I thought of her - to her face, with my mate there at the time. Fifteen years later, they're still together, have two gorgeous kids and I regret doing it - simply because it soured my relationship with my mate.
There - I CAN admit to making mistakes
As for me I have too many regrets to list on here, none of which are anyway near as meaningful or worthy as most of those expressed on here. I have a wonderful wife, two fantastic sons (a 17 year old from my first marriage and a 7 year old courtesy of the current Mrs) both of whom I have no doubt will be successes in life and find the inner happiness that their father never had. But if they do then that might just bring a smile to my face. No promises on that count though!
And of course, what you say is very true ...... I couldn't have had the beautiful children I have had without my ex-wife.
Incidently, I don't despise or hate her - after all the difficulties and pain of the past, she can't directly hurt me any more.
I just really wish I had made a better choice.
Ah....... the wisdom of hindsight!
I'm intrigued with your comment, "and find the inner happiness that their father never had". But you do have that inner happiness right now, as you speak so lovingly of your family around you.
That's a true blessing!
Have you spoken to either of them about it recently, Leroy?
Neither they or you are exactly the same people today as you were 15 years ago ......you're all more experienced in life, with more maturity.
When we're younger, often ego gets in the way, As we get older a little humility and humbleness can trigger a change of attitudes. Sometimes, all it takes is the right moment to aproach your old friend, and tell him how sorry you are.
good thread through.
not really a jibe id say more a josh.
Thankfully things are very amicable with my ex I get to see my little 'un whenever I want(he's down for the Bournemouth game) but I miss him very badly and I've patched things up with my step-daughter so things are on the mend there.
Lost my Wife, Job, House and alot of (what little I had) Sanity. Am on "Happy Pills" for the rest of my days because of this.
But, I would do it all again: Started "afresh" in 2000, now am buying aflat in SE26, trying to rebuild my work and have the lovely Sandra (Mrs MOG) by my side.
Did OK at school, didn't make the most of education but have done fairly well at work so can't complain.
Wish I hadn't cut short a new year's break in Amsterdam to come home and watch Charlton lose 4-2 against Southampton at Sellhurst.
Admin help DM out that can not have come from him
Mind you my spelling is still ok so can't be too bad.
My biggest regret is still that i didnt get to smash the twins i met in camden palace and had to settle for 1
But i was 18 slim and a lot better looking then
My lad jacked it in (along with the big money) last year, got accepted at Uni without A levels, had to do a Foundation year which he passed with 70% mark and max credits. Last summer he qualified as a diving instructor.
I'm really proud of him!