Having stayed at that park in can tell you that it is one of the best down there and when the weather is good one of the finest places for quality family time, my one downer with haven is how busy and full it gets meaning careful planning for the evenings
Going to be renting a property around 15 minutes from Sherborne (Chetnole for those in the know). And a hour from Poole (where I'll be working) going to do some paper work on Friday for it..
Looks like this is actually happening! Scary stuff...
Good luck, lovely part of the county, lovely countryside boozers and long walks, Sherborne is really nice and Yeovil not thar far either. Dorchester is only 30 mins away and that is being invested in and redeveloped very well. The journey to Poole and back will be mostly rural A roads and a million miles, and years, different to the M25. Get yourself a flat cap, tweed jacket and Wellingtons and the locals will accept you far quicker than you'd imagine!!!!!!!
Nice one Cray. I do Bournemouth to Taunton regularly so know those roads well. Proper Deliverance country up there though so make sure you invest in a decent smock, a Best of the Wurzels cassette for the tractor and a piece of straw to roll from one side of your mouth to the other.
In all seriousness all the best for what is going to be a big change of lifestyle.
Thanks gents. It's a huge move and a very different way of life! Unfortunley for me, London isn't for me anymore. The only negative for me is a slight drop in money! (6k a month).
@CoveredEnd Mrs is having cold feet about it all as she has been really put off about the job she will be doing and her shift pattern. My shift pattern will be changing quite a bit to aswell as the role.
Advice from anyone would be welcome, but do I still move and just deal with them things? Or do i do a U turn on it all?!
Have you written down a list of pros and cons ? This may assist. Also, which of you is making the ultimate decision ? I feel for something like this, I would possibly go with the wife's view. In which case, her view's would be the most important, if that is the case.
Quick question for you lot following this story...
How much would your shift pattern effect your decision in moving?
I've just been given my shift pattern and its absolute crap...
So what is it that you do? - you haven't told us. Unless it's something really obscure, there must be other opportunities for you both once you are settled.
For what it's worth, my advice would be go for it. Or spend the rest of your life regretting it. (If you hate it or can't settle, move back to London. But I'd be amazed if you wanted to)
@CoveredEnd Yes we have mate. Her list has more cons, mine has more pros. We both work in the same job (Investigation type work) and have both been offered jobs down there. She just doesn't like the shift pattern and the type of work to start off with. She loves the area but not keen on the work. Which I agree with too.
@fortune82ndminute it's a tough decision but I had very similar advice about just going for it! I would be initially renting too which wouldnhelp.
You spend most of your day either at work or commuting and if you don't like the type of work and shift patterns, you will likely be miserable, even if you prefer the surroundings.
So, I would say, if you feel that it is unlikely the work/shift issues will not change reasonably quickly, then you are not really benefiting. What you gain in one area, you lose in another.
Why not, keep looking, for more suitable, job opportunities, down there and in the mean time, have a couple of driving holidays, to get to know the area even better ?
Then, when a better work opportunity arises, there should be more pros than cons.
If you go and the wife's really not happy, I can't see it working.
If she's not happy, you won't be happy.
I would add, that for something life changing, like this. I am more cautious than bold, so you have to bear that in mind.
You spend most of your day either at work or commuting and if you don't like the type of work and shift patterns, you will likely be miserable, even if you prefer the surroundings.
So, I would say, if you feel that it is unlikely the work/shift issues will not change reasonably quickly, then you are not really benefiting. What you gain in one area, you lose in another.
Why not, keep looking, for more suitable, job opportunities, down there and in the mean time, have a couple of driving holidays, to get to know the area even better ?
Then, when a better work opportunity arises, there should be more pros than cons.
If you go and the wife's really not happy, I can't see it working.
If she's not happy, you won't be happy.
I would add, that for something life changing, like this. I am more cautious than bold, so you have to bear that in mind.
@coveredend Appreciate your advice. I do agree with everything you have said. The only thing I would add is that due to the type of work we do, this is a one time offer in this particalur area. Especially for both of us to have a position. If you have a look at the above, the shift pattern isn't great
Have you spoken to the "person"/HR re shift patterns ? Can they be changed ? Can you say you are not willing to come, unless the shifts are altered ?
If the shifts can't be altered, then your wife needs to decide what is most important. Like you say, you would go, so you've made up your mind. But if she is going to be unhappy, I can't see it working.
Have you spoken to the "person"/HR re shift patterns ? Can they be changed ? Can you say you are not willing to come, unless the shifts are altered ?
If the shifts can't be altered, then your wife needs to decide what is most important. Like you say, you would go, so you've made up your mind. But if she is going to be unhappy, I can't see it working.
I could try that approach as a last resort i guess.. I doubt very much there is room for movement though. I agree though it can't happen unless she wants to too.
@afkabartram Officer? That's an assumption of you sir ;-)
Just do it Cray, if we dilly dallied over the pros and cons we would never have moved, I had to commute to London, 1st year was tough, but it all settled down and never looked back since, 16 years now. This Easter weekend has been great down here, lots on, weather great. Only downside was yesterday took dogs out onto Weymouth beach then around harbour for a breakfast, there was a bloody big boat moored up must have been worth a few bob, the "Lions Den" from London, obviously a Millwall bloody fan!!!!
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Looks like this is actually happening! Scary stuff...
In all seriousness all the best for what is going to be a big change of lifestyle.
Remember, it's West Country wages.
But you'll be richer in so many other ways.
Good luck, Cray!
How much would your shift pattern effect your decision in moving?
I've just been given my shift pattern and its absolute crap...
Advice from anyone would be welcome, but do I still move and just deal with them things? Or do i do a U turn on it all?!
Also, which of you is making the ultimate decision ?
I feel for something like this, I would possibly go with the wife's view.
In which case, her view's would be the most important, if that is the case.
For what it's worth, my advice would be go for it. Or spend the rest of your life regretting it. (If you hate it or can't settle, move back to London. But I'd be amazed if you wanted to)
@fortune82ndminute it's a tough decision but I had very similar advice about just going for it! I would be initially renting too which wouldnhelp.
So, I would say, if you feel that it is unlikely the work/shift issues will not change reasonably quickly, then you are not really benefiting.
What you gain in one area, you lose in another.
Why not, keep looking, for more suitable, job opportunities, down there and in the mean time, have a couple of driving holidays, to get to know the area even better ?
Then, when a better work opportunity arises, there should be more pros than cons.
If you go and the wife's really not happy, I can't see it working.
If she's not happy, you won't be happy.
I would add, that for something life changing, like this. I am more cautious than bold, so you have to bear that in mind.
Can they be changed ?
Can you say you are not willing to come, unless the shifts are altered ?
If the shifts can't be altered, then your wife needs to decide what is most important.
Like you say, you would go, so you've made up your mind.
But if she is going to be unhappy, I can't see it working.
I could try that approach as a last resort i guess.. I doubt very much there is room for movement though. I agree though it can't happen unless she wants to too.
@afkabartram Officer? That's an assumption of you sir ;-)
Or more probably, an insurance fraud man!
@AFKABartram I like the element of mystery... Plus some things have to remain a secret ;-)