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The bar lady enigma
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We all instinctively know that most women love doing the chasing.
They thrive on it.
That's why playing it cool - is when the fishing rod has the patience and it is gentle
Well done Dave, you are talking to yourself and have given yourself some reasonable advice while writing on a message board.
Now, grow a pair and go and do something about it17 -
Look just be open and honest - no issues with that.Say something like "What would be your likely response if I asked you out for a date?" (clever wording in asking before actually asking)If she says "yes" then bingo.If she says no then respond with something like "I suppose a blow-job is out of the question then?"31
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bobmunro said:Look just be open and honest - no issues with that.Say something like "What would be your likely response if I asked you out for a date?" (clever wording in asking before actually asking)If she says "yes" then bingo.If she says no then respond with something like "I suppose a blow-job is out of the question then?"
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Just ask her for her number and say you want to take her out for a drink on a certain day next week. If she's interested then she'll give you her number and say yes. If she's busy that day but interested she'll give you her number and suggest another day.
If she says no to the above she's not up for it.
Don't make it any more complicated than that.13 -
Old Skool.RodneyCharltonTrotta said:Just ask her for her number and say you want to take her out for a drink on a certain day next week. If she's interested then she'll give you her number and say yes. If she's busy that day but interested she'll give you her number and suggest another day.
If she says no to the above she's not up for it.
Don't make it any more complicated than that.
Is that how you used to roll Rodders?0 -
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Old Skool.RodneyCharltonTrotta said:Just ask her for her number and say you want to take her out for a drink on a certain day next week. If she's interested then she'll give you her number and say yes. If she's busy that day but interested she'll give you her number and suggest another day.
If she says no to the above she's not up for it.
Don't make it any more complicated than that.
Is that how you used to roll Rodders?
Always worked a treat mate. Although probably helped that I look like Brad Pitt's better looking brother and have more charm than James Bond.
Don't believe the horseshit that you see on films or going around the houses etc. Direct, confident approach works best and avoids confusion/ ambiguity as if she's not interested she'll likely let you down gently if you faff about with convoluted approaches.
If she says no, make a joke about her loss and flash her a wink and a smile and carry on with your pint. But I reckon she;ll say yes.
Do it out of earshot of others and not when she's rushed of her feet/ distracted.
In true @oohahmo@oohaahmortimer style
She says yes 89%
She says no 10%
Pot noodle and a wank 1%
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As a woman who has worked a bar (and has mates who still do) do not try to flirt with her while she’s working. You can feel penned in as you’re at work and it’s not like you can walk off and leave if someone is making you feel uncomfortable.I’d suggest letting her know you’re interested, leaving your number and letting her know if she’s not interested that’s perfectly ok.Good luck mate!9
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You up to anything tonight? Asking for a friend.EastStand said:As a woman who has worked a bar (and has mates who still do) do not try to flirt with her while she’s working. You can feel penned in as you’re at work and it’s not like you can walk off and leave if someone is making you feel uncomfortable.I’d suggest letting her know you’re interested, leaving your number and letting her know if she’s not interested that’s perfectly ok.Good luck mate!21 -
Good luck but please keep us informed0
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PrincessFiona said:Good luck but please keep up informed
Who knows, I might be commenting on this discussion via a 12 year gap from it.
It's suddenly the year 2034 - me and her get married in a pub.
Charlton are continuing to enjoy life in league one
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This thread had potential.1
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Dave2l said:We all instinctively know that most women love doing the chasing.
They thrive on it.
That's why playing it cool - is when the fishing rod has the patience and it is gentle
Well done Dave, you are talking to yourself and have given yourself some reasonable advice while writing on a message board.
Now, grow a pair and go and do something about itOn a serious note,,Asking someone out for a drink who works in a bar is a bit meh. Ask if she'd like a trip on the Thames clipper to the Tate modern, lunch then back to Greenwich.1 -
Do they though? I think they generally like to be chased, rather than do the chasing.Dave2l said:We all instinctively know that most women love doing the chasing.
They thrive on it.
That's why playing it cool - is when the fishing rod has the patience and it is gentle
Well done Dave, you are talking to yourself and have given yourself some reasonable advice while writing on a message board.
Now, grow a pair and go and do something about it
But maybe things have changed and there's now loads of pissed up women wolf-whistling and ogling blokes left right and centre.0 -
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Do they though? I think they generally like to be chased, rather than do the chasing.Dave2l said:We all instinctively know that most women love doing the chasing.
They thrive on it.
That's why playing it cool - is when the fishing rod has the patience and it is gentle
Well done Dave, you are talking to yourself and have given yourself some reasonable advice while writing on a message board.
Now, grow a pair and go and do something about it
But maybe things have changed and there's now loads of pissed up women wolf-whistling and ogling blokes left right and centre.There certainly are and it gets a bit annoying at times I can tell you. Fighting them off is hard work!Nurse! NURSE!7 -
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Do they though? I think they generally like to be chased, rather than do the chasing.Dave2l said:We all instinctively know that most women love doing the chasing.
They thrive on it.
That's why playing it cool - is when the fishing rod has the patience and it is gentle
Well done Dave, you are talking to yourself and have given yourself some reasonable advice while writing on a message board.
Now, grow a pair and go and do something about it
But maybe things have changed and there's now loads of pissed up women wolf-whistling and ogling blokes left right and centre.
If there's a group of people on a night out - they bump into each other
Let's say, 2 women and 4 men. They're drinking and they wana get chatting.
3 of the men are displaying open signs of confidence and they are very talkative.
It is clear that the women have already won them over and it appears to be a typical social scene of "chatten em up"
The women will tell themselves "why is the quiet one so quiet! Does he fancy me too? I can't work him out?"
On the surface, it may look like they couldn't care less about the quiet individual, but in reality, it is a strong possibility that they probably more so want to chase his affection.
Their body language would probably make it more evident0 -
Come on Dave, dish the dirt.... do your fingers smell like scampi fries yet?18
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Another solution is to try to get hold of some Hai Karate aftershave. So effective that they had to stop producing it. Or was that because it was cheap and nasty? No, I saw the ads, it was potent stuff.5
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Tell her what a smashing blouse she has on failing that ask her if she uses timotei8
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Or some sex panther. 60% of the time, it works, every time!MuttleyCAFC said:Another solution is to try to get hold of some Hai Karate aftershave. So effective that they had to stop producing it. Or was that because it was cheap and nasty? No, I saw the ads, it was potent stuff.2 - Sponsored links:
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just leave a note on the bar saying " George Dobson has a foot like a traction engine", if she doesn't know what you are talking about she's not worthy0
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If you’re resorting to asking for pointers off Charlton fans, you’ve got no hope.9
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Present company excepted of course...arny23394 said:If you’re resorting to asking for pointers off Charlton fans, you’ve got no hope.
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I opened this expecting some sort of taxing lateral thinking puzzle. Instead it's 'how do I talk to women' pt 16846. FYI, the answer is that both glasses were full of helium1
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*checking bathroom cabinet*MuttleyCAFC said:Another solution is to try to get hold of some Hai Karate aftershave. So effective that they had to stop producing it. Or was that because it was cheap and nasty? No, I saw the ads, it was potent stuff.0 -
If all else fails, then head to The Millers in Bexley Village.Half the forum are in there on a weekend evening.2
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Do you find the old bingo hall works as a first date then @bobmunro ?bobmunro said:Look just be open and honest - no issues with that.Say something like "What would be your likely response if I asked you out for a date?" (clever wording in asking before actually asking)If she says "yes" then bingo.If she says no then respond with something like "I suppose a blow-job is out of the question then?"3 -
Ask her if she likes trains. If its a no, then you’ve got your answer!0
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And does she like a good ride.Mendonca In Asdas said:Ask her if she likes trains. If its a no, then you’ve got your answer!0 -
Have you thought this through ? If she’s working in the pub every night, who’s going to cook your dinner ?Dave2l said:Long story short, I have a strong affection for a nice blonde haired lady who works behind a bar. (It's not actually a long story. That's pretty much it)
I quite like the fact that she appears to be rather normal. My instinct tells me she is also most likely to be a student.
Not gonna beat around the bush, but me and her do already kind of fancy each other, and at this point, all I can do is completely mess it up.
Potential chat up line...
"The masters is really good, isn't it"
"Charlton are gana absolutely destroy....whoever the hell we are playing against tomorrow"
"Can you give my online dating account ....a good direct honest review" (pass my phone over)
"Why the hell is the kitchen shut on this mad Friday night. I wanted a pub curry!"
Any suggestions?10
